3 Lies You're Telling Yourself That Keep You Single

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3 Lies You're Telling Yourself That Keep You Single
How your negative internal monologue may be pushing love away from you.

I don't want you to feel like a crazy person, but have you noticed how much you talk to yourself? Everyone does it, and you're probably not an exception. Even now, while you read these words, your mind is chatting to you.

Indeed, our self-talk is active during every waking moment. Much of what we say to ourselves is made up of repetitive ideas that we're not even aware we're thinking. If the majority of these ideas are negative, our actual experience will in turn be tinged with negativity, giving us the very opposite of what we desire. After all, what we desire is love in a healthy relationship.

If we don't get wise to the self-talk going on in the privacy of our minds, we'll end up sabotaging our relationships, creating pain and misery for ourselves and for those around us. Often, we tell our friends and family one thing, but secretly think the opposite. For example, we may say that we're happy being single, and excited about the search for a partner. In our minds, we're terrified, scolding ourselves for not yet finding a good guy. In fact, there seems to be a "collective unconscious" of single women's thoughts. Keep reading...

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