Because their sexual conditioning is so strong, and their belief system so firmly entrenched in the old ways of thinking, most men on this planet still believe the destructive myth that ejaculation is the highest expression of male sexual power, and that coming is a man’s highest option in sex. Let me set the record straight right now. Men develop sexual potency, penile strength, a heightened orgasmic response and ecstatic pleasure not by coming, but by withholding ejaculation. Thus, in the new sexual paradigm for men seminal retention and sexual energy cultivation are the basic fundamental skills for accomplished male lovers.
Yes, I am very aware that many men recoil in horror when they first hear about non-ejaculatory sex. They may typically think, “It almost seems masochistic to withhold my potent discharge. Where’s the payoff?” The prevailing fear is that by withholding ejaculation they would be sacrificing sexual pleasure for some abstract health or spiritual benefit. Let me assure you that nothing could be further from the truth! In fact, withholding ejaculation heightens and amplifies sexual pleasure beyond anything that the chronically ejaculating man gets to experience in sex.
The fundamental problem with male sexuality is that too many men incorrectly focus on the shortsighted goal of ejaculation. Let me be absolutely clear! A genital release for a man is a negative phenomenon. Unlike women, when a man comes he simply loses life-force energy. This loss of vital energy is reflected in the loss of his erection, the loss of sexual desire, and even the temporary loss of interest in his partner. We’ve all heard how women hate it when men roll over and go to sleep as soon as they are finished having sex, but few people ever mention that the loss of energy from male ejaculation is the culprit. If you think about it, men only experience sexual pleasure until they ejaculate. Thereafter, they enter a less than thrilling refractory phase when even the penis does not take kindly to erotic stimulation.
Most men and women are unaware that scientists have found that creating sperm is a much greater priority for the body than previously imagined. As part of the body’s deeply embedded genetic pattern for survival of the species, its first response after male ejaculation is to direct all available energy in the body to restoring its ability for further procreation. In other words, the body demands a diversion of resources to replace the loss of sperm that might otherwise go into maintaining a healthy body. Amazing as it sounds, sperm production seems to be given a higher priority than healing illness or injury. This might explain why some athletes intuitively choose to refrain from sex before important competitions. They apparently recognize that the loss of energy from one or more ejaculations could be a severe competitive handicap so they choose to preserve their sexual energy rather than squandering it.