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How Many Ways Can You Say “I Love You?”


Making sure that your partner knows that you care about them is crucial for any relationship.

Sometimes it’s simply not enough to just say the words, "I love you." Words without actions can be fairly meaningless. Your partner may not show their love in the same way that you do, therefore causing a miscommunication in your relationship. As you read through this article, think about the many ways that you already show your feelings, as well as the many different ways that you can add the following into your life.

Say More Than I Love You
We all want to be appreciated for the things we do. Even dressing up is done in order to look nice for someone. Make sure to take the time to appreciate what your partner has done for you that day. If he or she looks exceptionally nice, make sure to let them know. It not only makes them feel better, it shows that you were paying attention enough to notice them.

Have you ever paid attention to a child who just received praise from his/her parents about a job that they did well? Their eyes glisten and their smile looks like it could reach ear-to-ear. The same feeling is still there for adults. Take a moment to thank your partner for making dinner or cleaning up the mess. It helps them to know that their hard work was acknowledged and encourages them. Have you ever noticed what happens when people are not acknowledged? They get discouraged and don't want to work as hard because they feel unappreciated. Don't let this happen in your relationship!

Have Fun
Make a game out of compliments once in a while. You don't need to act like a couple of young teenagers bantering over who loves who more, who will hang up the phone first or serenading your loved one with an off-tone voice, resulting in the neighbors throwing stones at you. (Although, if you do decide on the latter, please send us video!) Grab a stack of sticky-notes and a marker. Write down compliments and flirty comments and stick them on the bathroom mirrors, lunch boxes, briefcases and even the dresser drawers or inside the pockets of their clothes. If you know that your partner has a busy or stressful day planned, make sure that there are little comments left around — text messages and emails will work just as well if you don't have time to leave sticky notes, just to let them know that you are thinking of them. Reassuring comments to tell them how proud you are of them and that things will be ok are an excellent way to show you care and help bring some peace, or at least a smile, to your partner.

Make it a habit to smile more often. Sometimes words just don't cut it. Your facial expressions can tell a thousand words. Expressions tell others when you are upset, sad, hurt, angry, grateful and, hopefully in your case, loved. A person can feel absolutely sick and miserable but a genuine smile, even a sickly one; can make all the difference in the world to the other party.

While you were first beginning your relationship, was everything so serious and routine or did you have fun, flirt and play around a lot? More than likely, it was the latter. I don't think I can honestly say that I've ever met anyone who wanted to stay in a relationship that started off monotonous and boring. We usually put our best efforts forward and over time, we start to let those efforts fade away. Compliment each other again. Blow kisses and flirt like you are still trying to lure your partner in. Remember that this might actually take some effort for some of us who have fallen out of the habit of treating the relationship like it is something new and intriguing. It only takes a little bit of time, and maybe some creativity, to help keep the flame alive and burning, or for some of us, to rekindle the passion that once was drove us to do the silly things that brought you and your partner together to begin with.

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This article was contributed by Rose Leisure.


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