Too Much Mileage: 5 Reasons To End A Long Distance Relationship


Distance is killing your relationship. Is it time to end it?

Long distance relationships are usually mired in more difficulty than relationships that don't involve being world's apart, day after day.

This, of course, doesn't mean that relationships with distance don't ever succeed: some flourish, some fail. But, what it does mean is that knowing when to end a long distance relationship is important. It can mean the difference between moving on and riding a sinking ship until it sucks you under.

So, what exactly are the signs? When are the words "end your long distance relationship" blinking from a neon sign, begging you to notice?

Some signs are subtle, others are practically yelling from the mountain tops. But, whatever their volume, be on the lookout for the following hints:

1. Distance that Never Shortens:

The biggest factor in whether or not to end a long distance relationship is the mileage between the two of you. Is there any chance of it shortening? Living in Colorado and dating someone who is living in Oregon for a six month assignment is one thing. Dating someone who has moved to Oregon with no plans to return is another.

2. You never see each other:

Another sign that it's time to end a long distance relationship is never seeing each other. Some people can make the distance work, taking turns flying to each other's locations, for instance. Others never see each other, opting instead to base their relationship on Skype sessions and instant messaging.

If you are in the latter category, reevaluating things may need to be put at the top of your "To Do" list. This is because dating someone you never see is like Joaquin Phoenix dating his computer — it's just not real.

3. One of you is unhappy:

You may as well file this underneath the “No Duh” category, but it still deserves mention. If you or your spouse is unhappy or unfulfilled, it may be time to end things. The problem is distance often leads to misery. So, if you find yourself saying "I just can't do this anymore" it's real simple: stop.

4. You've met someone else:

You should also end a long distance relationship if you've either met someone or toyed with the idea. Someone who is, say, local. Even toying with the idea can lead to action. This is unfair to your partner, even if they're miles away and you're fairly certain they'll never find out.

You don't want to be one of those people, so end things before you begin something else. Once you make this type of mistake, you carry it on your conscience forever — infidelity may be one word, but it's a life sentence.

5. It's starting to feel ridiculous:

The final way to know if it's time to end a long distance relationship is the ridiculous factor. Do you see your relationship as something that is laughable? Is seeing your significant other once a year making you embarresed? Was the last time you saw each other for more than a week when a Republican was in office? If you answer yes to any of these questions, it might be time to move on.

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