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There's no doubt: dating after divorce can be either an exciting or scary prospect. The vast majority of people who get divorced do go on to date again, and online dating expands the pool of people with whom they might connect. That said, any unresolved issues from your divorce could surface in a new relationship. There is a reason why rebound relationships can be intense and (usually) don't last.
An increasing number of relationships are forming from online dating. New statistics revealed that more than one-third of American marriages today get their start online — and those are also less likely to end in divorce.
I decided to ask people who had been through my classes, were divorced and had started dating again what their experiences were of online dating and any advice they might have. The results were mixed, but there were some common themes:
1. It All Starts With A Captivating Profile
Men particularly seem to be looking for something that made a woman stand out. Share your witty sense of humor, an unexpected comment or an unusual hobby to catch someone's eye online. Divorced women tend to go for a profile that's descriptive — they know what they're looking for!
2. Be Sufficiently Prepared For Rejection
Both men and women agree that your feeling of self-worth is hurt by divorce and everyone fears being rejected. The respondents in my survey commented that even if they weren't especially interested in the person they had been "chatting" with, they often felt badly when the other person stopped communicating. So here's a tip: Give yourself time to rebuild self-esteem before putting yourself out there.
3. Recognize That Most Online Daters Embellish Their Profiles
In fact, that number is as high as 80 percent. One of the most common comments was that people embellished their profiles — or even flat-out lied. According to research, women tended to lie about their weight or age while men tended to lie about things like their height or income. People who have no profile photos (or use "you" instead of "I," which may be indicative of dodging the truth about themselves) should be approached with caution. On the other hand, make sure you have up-to-date photos that accurately represent who you are too! Keep reading...
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