Want to learn the best three ways to cheat on your partner ... with your parnter? (Yes, it's possible, and why wouldn't you want to?) There's a high that comes from the forbidden. The thrill, the illicitness, the unknown of a lover and the secret meeting that comes with a clandestine affair, all make for a hot indiscretion. And having that with someone you've been married to for years can be even better.
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Here are three ways to inject that spontaneity and surprise into a committed relationship, recreating those exciting feelings with someone you trust, without the deep hurt and betrayal that you risk with a real affair.
Plan a secret rendezvous. It sounds counterintuitive, but be spontaneous by planning a sex date. Sure, it might sound like you can't possibly find excitement in a sexy night where you actually have to make the bed and light the candles yourself, but if you can find a few hours to escape from your kids, your jobs and your otherwise regular sex routine, a sex date can be really hot and erotic. Tell your partner you'll meet him in the bedroom night and wait for him under the sheets ... naked.
Make love in a strange, dirty place. For a more passionate liaison, try sex in a strange place (and I don't mean the kitchen floor). Find a location that neither of you would ever dream of having sex. Find a really dark, dank local pub and drag him into the stall of the men's restroom. Do it in your parents' bed. (Maybe a little too weird, I know). The point is to find someplace that at first glance appears to have an "ick" factor. One of my client couples found that the back kitchen of a restaurant in between shifts was a great place for a quick makeout session up against a wall. "It was kind of greasy and smelly," Ilana said, "but that's what made it hot, I felt like we couldn't control ourselves, and we didn't worry about our clothes, we worried we were going to get caught and that's what made it so passionate."
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