The dating scene can be a maze. Sometimes it takes having a guide and a powerful support system as you maneuver through to your phenomenal love life. What makes me unique is that I focus on you following your heart, trusting your instincts, and honoring yourself.
After two broken engagements and eight years of serial dating, I realized that there was an easier way. I have uncovered some proven methods and techniques to make dating fun and enjoyable. Through them, you can receive what you truly desire, be comfortable in your own skin, and develop the skills to have a lasting and loving relationship.
When I was single and searching, I experienced the best and the worst that the dating scene had to offer. You name it, and I’ve probably been through it! I loved the beginning of the dating stage. It was exciting, and I was addicted to that euphoric feeling. Most of the time, things started fast and faded quickly. Either the men left, bolting and disappearing, or I ran before they could leave. I suffered from thinking I had it all together, when I didn’t. My dating life felt like a sinking ship, because I had to start over with someone else time and time again. This vicious circle became exhausting and unfulfilling. Something had to change.
I knew I had plenty to offer but I couldn’t quite tap into who I was authentically and stand for myself. I certainly didn’t understand how to let someone love me. After some hard soul-searching, I went on a mission to become loveable. Being loveable is about being able to continually love and honor myself, receive love from another person, and love that person fully.
I finally figured out this formula for myself and am thrilled to shout out that I am in a loving, healthy relationship. As of May, 2014, I am married to the love of my life. Our relationship is beyond anything that I could have ever imagined before this journey began, and it’s worth everything I went through. I now teach professional singles how to be adored, cherished, and loved for who they are. I show them how to love someone else, while speaking their truth and honoring themselves. I wrote Loveable: 21 Practices for Being In a Loving & Fulfilling Relationship to share some of what I’ve uncovered in my personal journey. I also co-authored Sexy Secrets to a Juicy Love Life.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
After I experienced the best and worst the dating scene offered, and then met the love of my life after eight long years of serial dating, I knew I was destined to assist other singles get out of the dating jungle and figure this out too!
People tell me that what makes my coaching unique is that I can hear what people can't see. I know how to bring out the best in people, squash their fears and get excited about love and partnership. And mostly, I love people and want them to pinch themselves everyday because they found the love of their life and have it last!
“My sessions with Suzanne started off having nothing to do with dating men. I knew I had some work to do on me before I was ready to let someone in, so we spent the first couple of months just working on my relationship with myself. The tipping point for me was learning about forgiveness. I had no idea how important forgiveness was! So before I, and Suzanne, gave me the green light to start dating I needed to immerse myself in forgiveness. I knew that forgiveness was the only way to remove the dark cloud that hung over my heart. That dark cloud of anger was in the way, which meant there was no room for anyone to get in.
I had a lot of forgiving to do! First up, me. I had to forgive myself for all of the bad choices I’ve made in relationships. Whether that choice was the person or the choices I made within the walls of those relationships. We went through each relationship one by one clearing out any left over negative feelings and forgave each one of them. It was liberating. I was able to clear a space for good things to come in; I was able to open my heart. No more anger.
My first crack at letting someone in was a disaster! What a gut check that was. I learned quickly that I couldn’t let just anyone in. The man I let in needs to be deserving of my trust. That’s when we honed in on what I call phase 2: The fulfillment list! I had a very short fulfillment list before my brush with disaster boy. So Suzanne and I got real with my fulfillment list and that’s when everything changed. I refined it, added to it, changed it. Soon enough I met someone who inspired me to add even more to that list. He showed me, without even realizing it, that there is more and there is better. And he tells me all the time that I deserve this and I believe him. This is a man who is deserving of my trust.
I am finally able to open my heart and together our willingness to be brave and vulnerable and to trust one another is what sets this relationship apart. I have found someone who communicates with me on a level that I require and he challenges me to do the same. A year ago I would not have been ready for this, now I am.” -Jenny
“James and I were at a dead end, namely my dead end. You see James was separated but not divorced and was somewhat unreliable. There was love but little trust, connection that was matched by frustration and joy met by tears and anger mixed with passion.
As a result, I hit a wall and threw up my hands up in despair, and we went our separate ways. I had to cut ties to honor myself even though we loved each other.
So having tried to be out of love, and tired of trying, thankfully Suzanne came into my life. She was the obvious choice being so in love herself, and oozing the positive vibes of love, happiness and harmony.
I took a series of coaching sessions. The first one I went through an exercise from the book, and I cried buckets and buckets and buckets. And of course, I talked about James. The next session, more clearing, then 3rd session, what do I want?
I realized that James was what I wanted, but the behaviour was not. The conversations with James began again. What were we committed to? What had to change for us to work? What did we both want more of and what we were prepared to do or not do to have it?
After finding a great quote that says “the grass is greener where you water,” and discussing the messaging of dating with James, we started back at the beginning with dating and a clean slate.
Our relationship is sometimes joyous; sometimes hard; but we both wanted it so we persisted. There were times of painful honesty, tears and anger, and also laughs, fun and love. But mostly, we are committed to each other and having a relationship that works for both of us!
We have now been back together now for eight months, closer than we’ve ever been and happy planning our future. The path would have never been this clear if it hadn’t been for Suzanne, and I’m so happy. “ -Jane
"I really longed for a relationship and at the same time I just couldn’t see it realistically happening…I’m a single mom with a full time job and a lot of other commitments…how was I supposed to fit a relationship into that equation? I also felt that being in a relationship would absolutely jeopardize my daughter’s happiness and well being. After all, in the past I would get completely engrossed in a new relationship and let all kinds of important commitments fall to the side – I just couldn’t afford to let that happen with my daughter. It felt safer to just wait for romance/relationship to occur once my daughter was grown and out on her own. While this plan seemed solid and the only option available to me for nearly eleven years, I harbored a lot of resentment towards others couples as I suppressed sharing love and intimacy.
Now with a clear and clean slate to work with I created just connecting with someone…if it lead to a relationship then great…if not, great. The important part was that I saw who I was going to be for myself, for a possible love interest, and most importantly for my. I gave myself a new outlook on love that I could step into. I’m now in a relationship that has continued to grow and blossom for over 2 years, and we are now living together. I continue to use the techniques I practiced in Suzanne’s workshop nearly three years ago to grow my relationship and steer it in directions that inspire me, my boyfriend and my daughter. I am truly grateful and free to express myself fully in this area of my life.” –Shannon
"Most of my dates would start off fast and then fade quickly, and I seemed to date a lot of unavailable men. I only dreamed of being adored by someone, and was starting to lose faith that their were men that wanted to be in a healthy relationship.
There was a gentleman I started dating just as we were wrapping up our coaching. I stayed intentional in keeping it light, letting him lead, JennJimBlogpicand believing it could happen for me. I now believe!!
Well, I can’t say it is merely coincidence that the guy I started seeing a couple months ago has turned into a ‘keeper’. And, he’s all the things I didn’t believe existed for me: he adores me, wants to protect me, is the alpha (former military guy, so that helps) is uber-bright, and we love lots of similar things. He’s asked me what my dream trip would be, and is already plotting how to make it happen. And I LET him. It’s a weird feeling for me to let him handle life. But it works really well!
Thank you for helping me open up to possibility! I may not have believed you when we worked through it, but somewhere, you got through to me. So, thank you!” –Jennifer
|Time in Practice||3-5 years|
|Additional Expertise||Relationship Coach|
|I offer my services||At my office|
Willing To Meet in Public Locations like Starbucks (please inquire)
Via a webcam
|I am fluent in||English|