So Many Broken Promises-- Is it Time to Leave?

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So Many Broken Promises-- Is it Time to Leave?
How many lies and how much disappointment should you put up with in your relationship?

Another lie.
Another disappointment.
Another broken promise.

If your relationship is struggling, you might be looking for some glimmer of hope that everything will be okay. You may be searching for some sign that you and your partner will work things out, despite your history of conflict, arguing, jealousy and maybe even cheating.

Perhaps you two have considered calling it quits but you decided to give your love relationship or marriage one more chance. You and your partner may have resolved to change the habits that are destroying trust.

You have promised one another to be less argumentative.
You have promised one another to make your relationship a priority.
You have promised one another to be more honest.
You have promised one another that you'll keep your agreements-- especially the agreement to be monogamous.

Maybe you have kept your word and followed through, but your mate continues to break promises and leave you wondering if there's any way you can stay together.
It can be an upsetting situation.

Despite the great talks you might have with your partner and the closeness you feel when you two come up with ideas for improving your relationship, he or she repeatedly lets you down.

Ultimately, you get to decide whether or not you will stay in this relationship.
This is the bottom line. We can't tell you what you should or shouldn't do in terms of whether to stay in or leave your relationship.

We encourage you to be very clear within yourself as you make this decision.
Listen to how you feel and what you want for yourself and for your relationship. Remind yourself that you CAN have and that DO deserve to be in a relationship that has the qualities that are most important to you.

Try to take as objective as possible a look at the dynamics between you and your mate. Are there signs that you two are beginning to move in the direction of the kind of relationship you want? Or, instead, do you two seem to be consistently pointing in the completely opposite direction?

Take all of this into consideration as you decide.

If you choose to stay in your relationship for now, ask yourself a couple of questions...

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
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Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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