The Recipe For A Healthy, Passion-Filled Marriage

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The Recipe For A Healthy, Passion-Filled Marriage
Are you adding the right “ingredients” to your relationship?

Rita is head chef at a gourmet restaurant. She is renowned for creating unique dishes that keep customers coming back. While she is proud of her accomplishments in the kitchen and her career, she is really worried about her marriage.

It seems that no matter what she tries, she can't seem to get it right when it comes to her relationship.

 

Rita and her husband argue about even little things. There is often an undercurrent of hostility between them. She can't remember the last time that they cuddled on the couch together or made love.

She's not willing to give up on her marriage. Rita believes that she and her husband just need to come up with a “recipe” for happiness. She just doesn't know what that would be...

Do you feel like your relationship could use a new “recipe” for passion and connection?

Does it seem like you and your mate just can't get it right? You might argue constantly. You might mistrust one another. You might feel bored, distracted and disinterested in your partner.

The result at the moment is that you are unhappy with the kind of marriage you and your partner have created.

If so, it's time to take a look at what you each are putting into the relationship. In every single case, BOTH people contribute habits and tendencies to the marriage-- some of these enrich the relationship and some of these weaken it. One person may add more intensity than the other, but both are playing a role.

Take a step back and try to identify what role you play in the unwanted aspects of your relationship. Try to move beyond figuring out who is “to blame” and focus on what's taking you two apart and what you can do differently.

Here are a few essential “ingredients” for a healthy marriage that is full of passion and connection...

  • 2 parts honesty
    You've got to have honesty and openness to create a healthy relationship. Half-truths and withheld information will only bring distance and mistrust. Remember to tell your truth without assuming to know what's true for your spouse. Choose words to tell it in a way that encourages understanding and connection.
     
  • 2 parts adventurousness
    Don't let things get boring and dull. Keep passion thriving in your marriage by shoring up your sense of adventure. This might involve stepping out of your comfort zone in the bedroom or being more spontaneous in the activities you and your mate choose to do together.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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