Give Your Sex Life a Boost with Housework

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Give Your Sex Life a Boost with Housework
3 ways to increase intimacy by sharing chores with your partner.

It's time to stop arguing with your spouse or significant other about who's going to clean the tub, scoop the cat box or do the dishes. The old stress and strain doesn't have to drag you (or your relationship) down any longer. Here's why...

You've now got research to back you up. A new study shows that men who share in both housework and child care are happier in their marriage. So women, when you ask him to tackle the pile of dirty dishes or to be in charge of giving the kids their nightly baths, you're doing not just yourself a "favor," it's for his benefit. It can give your sex life a boost as well.

When women feel like they're doing it all: cooking, cleaning, tidying and the bulk of the child care, irritation and resentment can build. Many women feel taken for granted. Unfortunately, many women bottle up how they feel until they can't contain it any longer. They unintentionally resort to manipulation, guilt trips or shouted ultimatums to try to get their man to share the load. This doesn’t work and creates even more tension and divide in the relationship.

If you're wondering how all of this relates to closer intimacy and amazing sex with your partner, imagine that you are wiped out after a long day. You come home (or look around your house) and see that it's a wreck! Stacks of papers, toys, shoes, breakfast dishes, dirty laundry and maybe some dog vomit too. On top of all of this, there's dinner to make. If you believe you have to take care of everything, the last thing you're usually open to is sex. You probably don't want another thing to do and for many women, sex has become a "chore." This isn't necessarily because they don't want to be intimate with their partner, it's because they're exhausted and drained. Keep reading...

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