The Couch Potato Trick that Makes Love Last

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The Couch Potato Trick that Makes Love Last
Do you prefer ice cream or cheese curls?

Do you feel like you’re constantly on the go taking care of everyone? Does this seem to also apply to your love relationship or marriage?

When there is tension or distance between you and your partner, are you the one who starts a conversation to get the two of you back to connecting? Are you the one reading and researching new strategies to make your relationship closer?  If so, you might be feeling a little tired and maybe even resentful too!

You want to have an amazing relationship where passion doesn’t fade away. You want the precious love you share with your partner to last.

Because of your intention and desire, you work hard to make sure your relationship stays healthy and close...and you don’t always get help from your partner. You may fear that if you don’t continue to fix the problems as they crop up, your love will weaken and maybe even die.

We’re going to suggest something that might sound a little odd.

This weird way of being with your partner and in your relationship may initially feel all wrong, but if you do it in a certain way, it’s going to bring crazy-good results. For anyone who works so hard to keep her or his relationship passionate and close, we recommend that you try an experiment: The Couch Potato Trick.

When you think of a couch potato, what comes to mind?

It’s someone who spends most of his or her time on the couch watching television, messing around on the computer and usually snacking on chips or cookies the whole while. Being a couch potato is undoubtedly bad for your health. We all know the risks of a sedentary and junk food-filled lifestyle, right?

There are aspects of being a couch potato that we do NOT suggest, but there’s one that we do. 

The Couch Potato Trick is not about gorging on cheese curls and watching hours and hours of tv with your partner. Instead, it’s taking more of a “do nothing” approach.  Please know, we aren’t talking about neglect, avoidance, ignoring or some sort of passive aggressiveness toward your partner or a relationship challenge.

Instead, we’re inviting you to do less and be more.

Stop trying to fix.
What would happen if rather than trying to change your partner’s (or even your own) bad habits, you eased off? What would it be like if you spent less of your time and energy running around trying to fix the things that you think are potentially hazardous to your relationship?

Maybe it goes like this for you...

You know that your partner had an argument with his boss at work. He came home, told you what happened and then said he didn’t want to talk about it. All evening, your love has been cold and withdrawn and, while you understand why, you desperately want to help. You want to do whatever you can to fix this. Your impulse is to push a conversation into the forbidden topic to get some details. You have ideas about what your partner could do to resolve this conflict at work and you’d like to see him try them.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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