10 Ways Jealousy Affects Your Relationship

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10 Ways Jealousy Affects Your Relationship
If you think jealousy is no biggie, think again!

Everybody knows about jealousy, right? Maybe you've read the claim that a "little" jealousy is good for your love relationship or marriage, or that when your partner is jealous, it means that he or she really cares. If you struggle with jealousy, you probably know how painful and destructive it can be. Not only is jealousy not good for your relationship, it's not good for you either.

Even though you get that jealousy isn't a beneficial habit, it's one that remains tough to break. You've possibly tried to change your ways and stop being jealous. You've probably tried really hard to erase the jealous thoughts that pop into your mind and then build up and cause you say or do things you later regret.

 

But ... You still get triggered easily. You still interrogate your partner, compare yourself to others and worry that you'll be betrayed and left.

Sometimes when you're caught in a battle between you and a nasty habit like jealousy, it helps to look at the specifics. Look at the very specific ways that your jealousy habit is keeping you down and holding you back from the kind of close, connected, trusting and happy relationship and life you really want.

Jealousy can ...

1. Endanger your physical health. It's stressful to be jealous, and prolonged stress means a higher likelihood that you may develop health problems like: high blood pressure, headaches, back pain, stomach aches, ulcers and maybe even heart attack or stroke!

2. Weaken your mental health. There are certain types of mental disorders that develop from very severe jealousy. But even more common forms of jealousy can be harmful to your mental and emotional health. Depression, difficulty concentrating, mood swings, anxiety and insomnia are just a few examples. Keep reading ...

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
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