One of the things that my wife and I have talked about, fretted about, and discussed at length is, what are we going to tell our son about sex? Our son just turned five, and it won’t be too long until he will be getting notes from little girls (or sending them himself) with "Do you like me? Check Yes, No, or Maybe (that middle box)" scrawled across the page. How are we supposed to guide him on this journey of love, sex and marriage? Through our discussions. We have figured out a few things we think he should know for his journey. Sex Ed Is A Parent's Job
We’ll have to talk about our past. This could get a little tricky, we both were far from stellar in our dating exploits before getting married. With multiple girlfriends and boyfriends, and a previous marriage in our background, we’ll need to be honest. Maybe we won’t go into all the gory details, but we have to explain why we are the way we are. When we start having the conversation, we’ll try to explain what happens when you give away your heart and body to multiple people before marriage. We experienced that as we kept giving ourselves away—physically, mentally, and emotionally—we found that we had less of ourselves to give. I’m not talking about just sex (because our bodies seemed to be doing just fine with sex).
What I am talking about is the emotional, mental and spiritual side. Most people like to think that sex is something separate from the rest of our whole person—that we have to have it to survive (thanks to our culture for that message). But, sex is about the whole person. My wife and I had given pieces of our emotions and our thoughts to others, along with our bodies. When it came time to be married, we came into the marriage with lots of memories of failed "romances" and hurts that didn’t have to be there. But we brought it upon ourselves by passing out our love to whomever would give us affection in return. Sex Education Update
We’ll have to talk about the difference between lust and love. Lust always wants more and more. It’s never satisfied. It has a jealous nature, and keeps pushing the line of "What can I get for myself?" Love is the opposite of lust. Love is giving and not controlling. Lust says, "Hey I went this far last time, so next time I’m going to go farther." Love says, "Let’s wait on the physical stuff until we actually figure out if we like each other enough to stay in this relationship and are willing to make a commitment to stay it in for the long haul." Sex Ed