It doesn’t matter how much you like a woman. If she isn’t responding to your calls, you need to stop calling. You may feel that if you keep trying to contact her, she will eventually get back to you. Maybe you’re hoping that this time, she’ll pick up the phone, or that she’ll be intrigued by your persistence. Unfortunately, this is not how dating works. In this situation, your best move is to be less persistent with women who do not return your calls.
Give Her One Last Call
This is how it works. The key is to let her know that you will not be calling her again. If she hasn’t returned your third phone call, leave her a "closing" message. I describe this as the ultimatum call.
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Your message could be something like, "I’ve been trying to get in touch with you for the last few weeks, but you haven’t answered my messages. I like hanging out with you, and it would be fun to see you again. But if I don’t hear back from you, I won’t call you again." Now you’ve put yourself in a win-win situation. If she calls back, then you can see her. If she doesn’t call back, then you can stop wasting your time on her.
The reason you should give a woman three chances is because there might be a reason she didn’t get back to you. It probably has nothing to do with you either. Maybe she’s doing a lot of things in her life and can’t focus; Maybe she really likes you, and is nervous to see you again; Maybe she’s in a bad mood that day; Maybe she’s been feeling insecure; Maybe she’s afraid of getting hurt.
The ultimatum call usually helps a woman realize that if she doesn’t get with the program, she might lose a great guy. Suddenly she needs to act—or else be cut off. She’s been warned that she can’t take you for granted. Unless she was really trying to ditch you, you’ll probably hear from her soon enough.
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