I’m a rules girl. The rules are about turning Mr. Saturday Night into Mr. Happily-Ever-After. However, just when I’d finished memorizing all the rules for catching a husband, the world of technology had me confused again, but you can learn from my mistakes. If you want to move beyond saying "I don’t know what happened? Things were going so well!", grab a pen and a glass of your favourite chardonnay and start taking notes. These rules are for you!
The Art of Sexting
It’s really quite easy, don’t do it! If you think the way to a man’s heart is to send nude photos of you, then bend over and say cheese. But that’s a big mistake if you want this guy to turn into your future husband. I guarantee that a relationship that uses sexting to keep things hot will fizzle out in 3-6 months when he bores of you. You'll end up with a lot of awkward, nude photos and questions as to where things went wrong.
The risks of sending boudoir photos go far beyond simply being disappointed when you eventually get dumped. Unfortunately, you most likely won’t have access to the "Clear History" button on your beau’s mobile. The Art of Sexting doesn’t matter how crazy you are about each other at the time, pick a different memento to keep. You DON’T want the online world flooded with pics of your genitals for all eternity. Not wify material.
Your sexy texts after 9 raspberry mojitos might seem endearing to you in the moment, but more likely than not, they will probably be hysterical to the recipient. And, we all know what we do with funny pictures; we share them with our friends. If you’ve had one too many glasses of bubbly and suddenly feel the urge to send a photo of your breasts just to say, "Hey babe, I wish you were sleeping in between these." DON’T. While he may be aroused initially, you will have started a trend that causes men to quickly lose respect and lose interest. It may be fun and flirty at first, but later he will wonder how many other people you have been doing this with. Keep the excitement and sexual tension going by waiting to show him in person. He will appreciate that much more.
Some basic Rules around texting, in general, that I would like to share:
Just because a man does not call or text you back does not give you permission to text him 3 more times or call him to make sure he got your last message. All that is demonstrating is that you are psychotic and emotionally needy, neither of which are sexy or wife material. Take a deep breath and PUT THE PHONE DOWN!
If you are between the ages of 26 and 30, wait 2 hours before you respond to a text in order to catch his attention. Why? Keeping an air of mystery about you is key. Plus… you are busy! Right?
If you are over 31, wait at least three to four hours. Remember, you COULD have important meetings, a successful career, drinks with friends after work, fitness classes and a whole social life to attend to. He doesn’t need to know you are curled up on your couch petting one of your dogs. Men are natural hunters so let them pursue you. It’s far more gratifying for both parties.
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