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Why Touch Is Vital To A Happy Relationship

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Why Touch Is Vital To A Happy Relationship
Increase your relationship's happiness and vitality with simple touching techniques.

Touching is one of the most intimate of all actions. It allows you to move into sacred space, creating presence and connection.

Although most women love to hear the words, "I love you," touching catapults relationships into intimacy. Words are processed in the thinking part of our brains, whereas touch goes directly to our emotional centers.

Regular touching of your lover as well as your own beautiful body gets the endorphins flowing, which create a sense of caring and pleasure, plus help to calm the stresses of the day.

Furthermore, touch is the communication of love. It engages the senses God gave us for our emotional and physical well-being and pleasure, and is a powerful way to express what we cannot say. And yet, we are a touch-starved society.

A worldwide study done in the 1960s monitored the number of touches couples shared at coffeehouses around the world. The results reveal the drastic cultural differences we apply to skin-on-skin contact. Puerto Ricans got the prize—touching 180 times an hour, while Americans adhered to a strict diet touching only twice within an hour.

Thus began some serious research on the importance of touch, leading to the discovery that the amount of skin-to-skin contact in our lives plays a crucial role in our happiness and vitality. The act of touching influences our ability to form close relationships with other people, to deal with stress and pain, and even to fight off disease. The hunger for touch may manifest as depression, anxiety, irritability, boredom, pain, moodiness as well as make you feel isolated, separate and lonely. 5 Reasons Women Are Dissatisfied With Their Sex Lives

So many women complain that their relationships lack intimacy—much of it arguably because of our touch barriers. We are born with an intense hunger for contact. The emotional development of babies depends on tons of touching and as adults we have a strong need to be held in someone's arms, to hold hands, to be cuddled and caressed. Yet, most people don't touch as often as they would like—afraid of being rejected as being needy or vulnerable, they cover their need for intimacy with work, activities, TV, food, drugs and alcohol.

If you want intimacy, it's time to break the touch barriers! And the first step to developing a successful, intimate relationship with your partner is to first build intimacy with yourself. Exploring every inch of your body will help you get to know what you like and what makes you feel good. Once you've got this down, you can reach out to your partner with confidence to create the closeness you crave. The Power And Science Of Sexual Touch

With all these fantastic reasons to bring touch into relationships let's take a look at 7 ways you can incorporate touch into your life.

1) Moisturize head-to-toe: Applying lotion to your body guarantees that all of your skin will be touched and rubbed. For an added calming effect, use an aromatherapy lotion scented with lavender.

2) Hugging: Full-body hugging increases closeness, connection and safety.

To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.

Right now, I want you to:

Create an intimate connection with yourself by putting on some soft tunes, lighting a candle, lying down, closing your eyes and letting you hands glide over your body, touching every delicious curve. Enhance this exercise by using an aromatherapy lotion or essential oil with a sexy scent like ylang-ylang or rose. Feel your sense of sensual self expand.

Within 7 days I want you to:

Start touching people (in appropriate places like the arm) when talking with them. If you're dating or in a relationship, go for the leg or base of the spine... notice how it brings you into the present moment and instantly creates connection, warmth and intimacy. Incorporate this into your daily life.

By the end of the challenge I want you to:

Both get and give a massage—this can be full body, foot, shoulder or hand. Make sure to use aromatic lotions or oils to make the experience of touch more heightened. Notice how it relieves stress, brings peace of mind, and gives an overall feeling of well-being, which allows you to be more open, less rigid and thus more connected and intimate—both in and out of bed.

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