7 Things the Gym Taught Me About Dating

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Don't be afraid to put yourself out there. Get your dating life into shape.

If you want to become successful with women you should definitely get a gym membership. I can't think of any other activity that will teach you more about seducing and dating beautiful women than hitting the gym.

I've worked out for two years and even though I don't look like Arnold Schwarzenegger in his best days I am pretty satisfied with my body. If you want to increase your self-confidence in general and especially around women it is always advisable to lift some weights and to get in shape.

Even though the development of your body is already a result that indirectly increases your success with women, the insights that I want to share with you have nothing to do with your muscle growth. By saying that the gym taught me a lot about dating I refer to the mental development I have experienced by lifting weights. This mental development can be directly linked to seducing women.

Whether you do ten reps on a barbell or if you approach ten women, the fundamental principles are the same. Not only that, but the mentality that you must have in order to succeed is absolutely identical.

1. Everybody Starts Small

When I got my membership at the local gym a couple of years ago I looked like a toothpick that could snap at any second. I was worried that the other members would make fun of me and I felt embarrassed when I had problems to lift the lightest weights. Now I can lift nearly five times as much as I could back then and I feel completely comfortable whenever I enter a gym.

Back in the days when I struggled with extreme approach anxiety, I was in the same situation. I will never forget the day when I approached a girl for the first time in my life. My voice was shivering, my hands were sweaty and my knees were shaking. However, I am thankful that I did it. Otherwise, I wouldn't be able to write this article for you.

Today I am completely fearless in the presence of women and I have no problem approaching hot girls in the weirdest situations. If I didn't start small, I would still be a frustrated guy without any success with women. Everybody has to start small, but if you never start then you don't have the chance to get big.

2. Persistence Leads to Success

Do you think a professional bodybuilder goes to the gym for a couple of days and boom, he looks like a Greek God? Hell no. It takes years of hard work until you have a body that deserves to be displayed in a magazine.

I won't say that it takes years to learn everything about the art of seduction and achieve the success with women that you want. If you work with a good coach or study helpful articles and books, then you can definitely speed up the learning process. However, you won't become a master seducer by reading one article and by approaching one girl.

Success is an accumulation of small steps that you take every day and is only possible if you are persistent and if you keep on going. This applies to bodybuilding in the same way that it applies to seducing women.

3. Results are Motivating

The first week you go to the gym everything hurts. It is so bad that you can't even walk. After two weeks you don't feel much pain after your workouts and after a couple of weeks you see the first results. The moment you see that your training leads to results and that your body is actually changing is extremely motivating. This is the moment where you see your effort finally pay off. As a result of this you work even harder the next time to achieve even better results.

The same rule applies to your dating success. The moment you get your first phone number from a beautiful girl is a moment of joy and relief. You finally have the proof that all the articles you read and the information you put into practice has led to results.

It gets even better when you have your first dates, your first sex and eventually your first threesome. The more results you get, the more motivated will you be to achieve even more amazing things.

4. Sometimes You Have to Pause

In the last couple of weeks I was really satisfied with my workout routine. I could see how my body was changing over the period of a few weeks. Then one week ago, I got sick and had to rest until now. Even though it was hard to rest and witness how the muscles I built slowly started to fade away, it was the right thing to do. If I ignored my sickness, I'd probably still be in bed with a fever.

Imagine you just embarked on your journey of approaching and seducing women and at the beginning it goes really great. You get a lot of phone numbers, go on quite a few dates, and you even have sex with one or two girls. Then suddenly everything changes. You have no success with women for weeks. What do you do?

The best thing to do is to pause, take a step back and analyze what you may have done wrong. Stop approaching women as soon as you find out what you must work on, and then work on it before you go out again. Ignoring the obvious signs and continuing to do what doesn't work is counterproductive.

5. Starting Again is Worth It

Now that I am well again it is finally time to go back to the gym. I may need to reduce the weight a little bit and I may need to work out a few minutes less than usual, but I know that going back is the right thing to do. I know that working out again is worth it.

The same principle applies to seducing and dating women. Let's say you have been very successful with the ladies and at some point you decide you want to make one of the girls you are dating your girlfriend.

You end up in a relationship and after three happy years, and one unhappy year, you break up with her. You can decide that starting to date women again makes no sense or you can decide that starting to date other girls is worth it. We both know which one of those decisions will lead to a fulfilled sex life.

6. Your Hunger Increases

When you hit the gym and you see the results, you automatically want more. The feeling you get when you look at your body in the mirror is a feeling of pure hunger. You don't even have to motivate yourself for it, you feel it anyway.

You can get the same feeling when you achieve some success in your dating life. When you constantly approach women and you finally have sex with an attractive girl, something in your mind "clicks." You enjoyed the night with this beauty so much that you become hungry for more.

If this night was so amazing, how would it be to spend the same night with two women? You get hungry and the only reason why you will go far is because you don't lose this hunger.

7. Be Who You Want to Be

When I was still a little toothpick I saw a video of a natural bodybuilder on YouTube. From this moment on I decided I wanted to improve my body. I didn't want to become a professional bodybuilder, but I knew that I wanted to look different than I looked at the time. Today I can proudly say that I am no longer a toothpick.

In the same way hitting the gym allows you to become the person you want to be, investing time and effort in your dating life also allows you to be the man you want to be. If you aspire to be a man who is successful with women, then do something for it.

If you are scared of approaching women but you would love to have beautiful women in your life, you must face your fears and overcome them. If you want to experience a fulfilling relationship but don't know how to seduce women, then learn to seduce women. You can be the man you want to be. The decision is yours.


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