There's One Thing That Causes All Breakups — And It's SHOCKING!

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It's not that he's selfish or she's thoughtless. It's about what's (NOT) happening in bed.

What is the number one reason why couples decide to separate ways? 

Well, if you believe the most common relationship advice out there, the cause of a breakup isn't that obvious. There are thousands upon thousands of different opinions when it comes to finding an answer to why couples decide to end a relationship.

I am sorry to disappoint you, but you won’t hear the same nonsense from me that you heard over and over again. I won't tell you that your girlfriend simply needed more time to "find herself," whatever the heck that even means.

I won't lie to you. Instead of feeding you all the fairytale beliefs about relationships and breakups that every couples therapist would tell you in order to get paid for another hour, I'm here to tell you the truth.

Unless there's something serious going on like domestic violence, there is only ONE reason why couples break up, no matter what they think the true reason is. 

Life Is Not A Hollywood Movie

We are trained by society and especially by the movie industry that breakups are always something dramatic. One person has to do something that hurts the other person or, even worse, we are made to believe that it is normal to break up because of every little trifle.

  • "You forgot my birthday! I'm done!"
  • "You never help in the household! I can't take it anymore!"
  • "You just stabbed my mother! I'm going!"

All of these are just symptoms of a souring relationship, but they're not the real reason you broke up — unless you really killed her mother.

Your girlfriend might tell you that she needs more space and that she wants to find herself, but in reality she is simply unsatisfied with the relationship. She might also tell you that you've changed and that you are not made for each other, but in reality she's just unsatisfied with the relationship.

The True Reason For Breakups

What distinguishes a happy woman and, therefore, a happy relationship from an unhappy woman and, therefore, an unhappy relationship? How is it possible that some women are completely satisfied in a relationship while others are completely unsatisfied?

The only true reason for breakups is your penis!

OK, it's not directly your penis but the fact that it's is not inside her, at least not the time or the way that she wants it. Maybe you're already at a place where she doesn't even want you inside her anymore.

No matter what constellation you choose, the reason for breakups always goes back to sexual frustration.

You can call me crazy. You can convince yourself to not believe me, and you can even say that I am a stupid liar, but I honestly have NEVER seen an unhappy couple that had amazing sex.

I have never talked to a guy who said that he wants to break up with his girlfriend, even though he was still sexually attracted to her. I have also never talked to a girl who told me that she wants to break up with her boyfriend, despite the fact that she still enjoys him in bed.

No matter what the person who leaves says and no matter how your partner expresses her frustration, it always goes back on unfulfilled sexual desires: One of you is underappreciated in the bedroom and, therefore, frustrated.

Why It Is Inevitable

Do you want to hear another uncomfortable truth? You can take as many relationship therapy sessions as you want and you can buy as many sex toys as you can fit into your closet, but once the sexual attraction is gone, you can hardly get it back.

Unless the sexual attraction for each other is gone because you both gained 100 kilos and are fat as blue whales, it's a natural process that two people lose interest in each other time, even though they didn't change physically.

We human beings are not designed to live a monogamous life with just one partner for the rest of our life.

In case you decide to label me as a liar and decide to stay in your "happy" relationship even though your sex life is bad, you will rot in that miserable relationship for the rest of your life until your penis falls off, which is not really bad because you're not using it anyway.


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