Learning how to have an orgasm is surprisingly easy. If you've never had one before, then this guide will show you exactly what you need to do in order to have a powerful, body-shaking orgasm by yourself as well as with your partner.
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I have split this tutorial on how to get an orgasm into 2 parts. Both are equally important. In the first part I am going to explain the things you need to do before you start masturbating or fingering yourself so that you are pretty much guaranteed to have a super strong orgasm. Then afterwards, I am going to show you the specific techniques that you need to use while masturbating to get an orgasm.
This is simply because when figuring out how to reach orgasm, whether by yourself or with a man, you need to be able to do 2 things:
1) Put yourself in the right mindset
2) Know how to physically bring yourself to orgasm
Alrighty, let's begin your journey on how to reach orgasm!
1. Go It Alone
Before ever trying to orgasm with your man, you should first start by learning how to have an orgasm on your own. The reason behind this, is that there is a lot less pressure to 'perform' when you are just by yourself and nobody is watching. Not only should you try to reach orgasm when you are somewhere alone or private, but you should also try to make sure that you are as comfortable as possible.
For almost everyone, the place that are both comfortable and a place that is private is their bedroom. But for others, it's the bathroom or even the shower. Wherever your comfortable and private place is, is ultimately up to you.
As well as being in a private, comfortable place you also need to be able to get yourself in the mood to have an orgasm, which I talk about in the next section...
2. Your Fantasies, Kinks & Turn Ons
To each their own—this phrase is incredibly true and poignant when it comes to what fantasies make you most excited, horny and aroused. Having the best orgasms requires you to intimately know what turns you on and arouses you. So for this part, you need to do a little exploring...
You need to start examining what kinds of things turn you on. For many, the classic examples of being with a guy they find hot and attractive or being swept off their feet or having sex in front of a roaring fire turns them on and arouses them immensely. However, you'll find that most people have kinks and fantasies that aren't as mainstream as this.
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These could be things like being dominated by a guy or 2 guys or even a group of guys. Or they could involve things like feet, wearing certain clothes or being degraded. For many women, watching porn is a massive turn on, while others can't stand it. The list is endless.
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