11 Rules For Keeping A Friends With Benefits Situation Casual

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These 11 hot friends with benefits rules will keep incredible sex casual and fun.

There are a few simple rules you need to follow if you want to have a friends with benefits situation that works. Notice I call this a 'situation' and not a relationship? It's not like a regular relationship ... there are certain rules you need to follow to make sure it works and you don't end up feeling confused, hurt, or let down if things don't work out.

So let's jump in and learn some of the rules you need to follow so you get maximum enjoyment from your friend with benefits or 'fuck buddy' as everyone seems to call them.

1. Don't think that a friends with benefits situation is a good way to start a regular relationship.

Sometimes women think that if they can just get a guy to sleep with them, then they will be able to turn that into a serious, long-term relationship. To believe this is the equivalent of building a castle on sand—it's a really bad foundation for a relationship. The only reason you should ever be in a friends with benefits relationship is when you want some naughty, dirty, hot sexual passion and nothing else.

2. Stay emotionally neutral.

This can be hard, but it's a vital rule of friends with benefits situations if you want it to work properly. So, this means that you need to prevent yourself from getting attached to him. It means that you're not allowed to get jealous if you see him hanging out or flirting with other girls. And it means that you can't be angry if he doesn't text you back immediately.

3. Keep it cuddle-free.

An oft forgotten friends with benefits rule is that you need to keep it 'cuddle-free'. When you start to cuddle after sex with your fuck buddy, your bond with him will get deeper. This is not a good thing when it comes to keeping the situation free of emotion. The really annoying thing about this is that cuddling feels fantastic! So, do your best not to cuddle with him after sex.

4. Keep communication to a minimum.

A vital rule of the friends with benefits situation is that you keep your communication to a minimum when you're not together. Texting each other everyday is going to give your fuck buddy the wrong idea. He could start to think that you're looking for a serious relationship, which may freak him out.

5. Choose wisely.

Another important rule of having a friend with benefits that you need to know before you jump into bed together is to choose a guy where there will be no awkwardness if you both break up and still hang around each other. There is nothing more annoying than having great sex with a coworker for a few months, then break up and have to hang around him while he dates another one of your colleagues in a more serious way. A good way to choose your friend with benefits is to choose someone who you wouldn't see a whole lot anyway if you weren't sleeping together.

6. Don't hook up 5 nights a week.

Make sure that you don't hook up too often. Once a week or once every 2 weeks is fine. More than twice a week is a bad thing. You'll end up spending too much time together, which in turn will make it more likely that those dreaded 'feelings' will start developing.

7. To sleepover or not to sleepover.

While this is not exactly a friends with benefits rule, it's important to know that just because you are sleeping with someone, you don't necessarily have to sleep over. It's perfectly fine to leave an hour after you've arrived.

8. You don't need to discuss it.

Friends with benefits situations aren't like regular relationships. They're way less serious. As a result, you don't need to worry about discussing or defining the relationship. It's much better to just let it evolveand eventually devolvewhile you adhere to these friends with benefits rules. Having a serious discussion about it isn't a great idea.

9. Don't forget about protection.

This should be the number one rule of any friends with benefits relationship. Make sure your man always uses protection. Just because you're not taking the relationship seriously doesn't mean that you should avoid taking your health seriously!

10. Understand that it's not built to last.

Friends with benefits situations are most definitely not built to last. Some only last a week or two and some may last a few months, but it's incredibly rare for them to last more than a year. Be aware of this going into it and enjoy it while it lasts.

11. Don't be surprised if you absolutely hate it.

This last rule is also the least understood. Being in a friends with benefits situation is supposed to be 'sexy, hot and dirty'. Well, that's what everybody else is saying. The fact is that some people enjoy having casual, no strings-attached sex, but there's actually a lot of people who just don't enjoy it at all. Don't be surprised or worried if you find that it's not for you.

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