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What Is A Soul Mate?
by Randall Curtis
A man's heart is feminine and the woman who is his
soul mate reflects his soul. A woman's heart is masculine and
the man who is her soul mate reflects her soul. Each one feels
the presence of the other inside of them as the very core of who
they are. There is a deep recognition of this truth.
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But the cold truth is that most people have never known the
inner radiance of their own soul. Instead, they cling to the
many myths about the soul mate relationship that are simply not
true. These false beliefs need to be understood. Here are just a
Myth One: Many people believe that they will find their soul simply by
looking, wishing, hoping and dreaming.
They feel that somehow this person will come along and make them
eternally happy. This is the most naive of all the soul mate
Myth Two: Others tend to rely upon how much they are attracted to another
person to determine if they are their soul mate or not. The
truth is that our attractions are very deceiving. The myth is
that we can trust our feelings of attraction, as if our feelings
are a validation of the facts. Further, the attraction you may have for someone could actually be a fatal attraction without you even realizing it. You
may think a person is your soul mate, but you could simply be
sexually obsessed with them. T
Myth Three: Why are so many of us looking for a soul mate when we don't have
any capacity for true heart intimacy? Even if our soul mate
actually does appear, we may become so terrified of giving our heart
to them that we run 100 miles in the other direction. The
unconscious myth here seems to be that we can find our soul mate
without surrendering our heart.
Myth Four: Another myth is the belief that we would recognize our soul mate if we met them. We fail to realize that if our soul mate reflects our soul, and we are unable to feel our own inner radiance -- don't really love ourself or know who we are -- then we will be unable to recognize him/her. In act, you could know such a person for years without even recognizing that they are your soul mate. I
know this to be true, because it happened to me.
So, how do you find your soul mate? If we really do want to find our soul mate, we must realize that we have to awaken to a greater capacity for surrendering
our heart. By surrendering our heart, we will know the wound of love as well as the profound sense of intimacy that comes with it. Believe me, if you give your heart away you will be far richer for it. Even though you may lose your lover you gain in emotional strength. Try it and you may just find the one you have always been looking for.