Okay, so you’ve read my article on when to start dating again after a break up or divorce and you’re confident that you’re 100% ready to get back out there. Congratulations! But wait – before you sign up for Match.com and start winking at people, let’s make sure you’re really prepared by going over the behaviors that can make or break a first date. If you haven’t dated in a while, reviewing this list will definitely help you get to the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, and 5th date – and maybe even to “I do”.
Now, before we get started, I want you to know that this topic is actually really close to my heart. As many of you know I went through an extremely painful break up a few years ago and I didn’t date anyone for a long time. As time passed, after a long time of working on myself and getting my ducks in a row, I finally felt ready to get back out there.
I signed up for OkCupid.com (Which is Free by the way) and after about six or seven months I met a really intriguing man. Of course I read his profile over and over again, but it wasn’t until we met in person that I really got to know how great he is. We’ve been seeing each other for ten months now, and for the first time in my life I’m SO content because first of all, I am so clear about what I want my relationship to look like and what I want to experience in a relationship and second because I am finally with a man whose own mindfulness not only respects my values and desires, but also understands the importance of respecting both of our values and desires, in order for us to build a strong relationship.
This is the partner and teammate I’ve been looking for, and if you want the same thing, you have to bring your “A Game” to your first dates. Like I said before, certain behaviors have the ability make or break a date, so review this list before you get back out there:
Major First Date DON’TS!