Do you feel like your relationship is suffering because of a lack of communication between your partner or the people you attempt to date?
You are not alone!
On psychotherapists' couches and coaches' offices throughout the country, couples-both young and old- are revealing that they need help developing better communication skills. It’s always a variation of the same story: “We don’t communicate.” “We talk, but we don’t hear each other.” At a time in which we are communicating more rapidly than ever-via texts, tweets, and one email volley after the next-it seems that there is hardly anyone among us who couldn’t use some tips to facilitate more active listening for their in-person interaction with their partners.
As a society, our collective inability to engage in open and honest dialogue that could lead to positive change takes a toll on marital and family relationships. Couples who are unable to transcend the typical surface communication with their partners and potential spouses are ruining their likelihood of finding and maintaining fulfilling, romantic relationships. Their biggest mistakes often involve holding back the information that could set them up for successful partnerships. Todd Outcalt, author of Before You Say I Do: Important Questions for Couples to Ask Before Marriage, can attest to that! He recently shared his insight on the importance of discussing certain topics before walking down the aisle, when I interviewed him for my show Lovecast With Rachel Russo
Whether you are single, engaged, or married for years, if you feel like your emotional well being is suffering and are desperately trying to find a way to improve your relationships, here are a few tips to consider:
Be transparent: Yes, your mother always told you that it’s not what you say but how you say it that counts. However, take care not to underestimate the importance of the content of your conversations with the people you care about. For truly successful relationships, the nature of your dialogue should always be based on the truth in its’ entirety. Romantic relationships will flourish when both partners are able to share their innermost feelings and thoughts about themselves and each other.
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