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23 Dating Tips For Meeting Through The Online Personals
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These 23 dating tips will prevent you from being catfished or a victim of false advertising.

As a single gal out in the dating world, I have learned the ins and outs of dating through the personals.

It doesn't matter whether the personal ad site is free or has a fee, these 23 online dating tips will help you to see through anyone's facade and help prevent you from getting catfished or getting unnecessarily hurt by "false advertising":

1. If they say "Friends first" in their personal ad, they are not emotionally available.

They are not looking for a committed relationship. Either that or they are very skittish about commitment and monogamy. You do not want to get into a "friends with benefits" type of relationship.

2. If they answer your personal ad in a sexual or derogatory way, stay clear of them.

3. Read their personal ad from beginning to end.

If their personal ad consists only of their sexual and erotic desires, it is a surefire bet that they are not looking for anything long-lasting.

Also, if you see in their ad that they are looking for singles and couples, they are into alternative dating. If your goal is for a long-term committed relationship, then you will want to look elsewhere.

4. Be careful if someone has in their personal ad "looking for fun".

Yes, we are all looking for "fun", including me. However, I am looking for a special someone to have fun with. I personally have to feel a "connection" to someone (on and off the internet) in order to get intimate with someone, and that connection goes beyond sexual or emotional.

There is no "perfect timing" for when two people should get intimate. When it's right, it's right.

5. For the ladies, once they answer your personal ad and they seem interesting to you, ask for their cell phone number right away.

Before cell phones existed, getting a phone number was a lot easier. Don't just accept an office phone number. They will either give you their cell phone or their home number.

Cell phones are a little tricky because some people don't have home phones, just a cell phone. If they say, "No give me your number", they are probably married or already involved. If they call you from a phone booth, that is a dead giveaway they are already taken. It has happened to me.

6. Do not waste your precious time e-mailing, texting, or Facebook messaging back and forth for a long period of time. 

Ask for their number and YOU call them right away. Make arrangements to meet within a few days. If they don't want to stop e-mailing, texting, or im-ing, that is a sure fire sign that they are hiding something.

7. Insist on a picture.

If you are willing to show them yours, they should be willing to show theirs. They might have something to hide and they could be even lying about their age. Ask them point blank how old they are, especially if things don't add up.

8. If you find someone interesting through the personals and they are local, meet them during the day at a coffee shop.

9.  If you get there on time and they've already ordered before you, they have very little class.

Their manners are atrocious and yes, believe it or not, it has happened to me.

10. If the waiter or waitress asks for your order and he orders first, he's not a gentleman.

He has no consideration or respect for women is self-absorbed.

11. If he asks you to pay for your coffee, oy vey! He's cheap.

12. If you are arranging for your first meeting, do not let them come to your house under any circumstances. 

Do not get into their car and do not tell them where you live under any circumstances.

13. If, after talking to them on the phone, e-mail, or Instant Message, you feel they aren't right for you, tell them straight out.

Don't play games. If they have an unusually strange or upset reaction and lash out at you verbally, you know you've made the right decision. Do not be persuaded to meet anyway.

14. If you get to a first date with them after your initial meeting and you feel comfortable enough to allow them to pick you up at their house, then great!

A sure fire sign that you picked a loser is when they drop you off and don't walk you to the door. And then they call you again for a date. They don't know how to treat a woman.

15. If they talk very bad about their ex, that's a red flag.

They let you know that they hate their ex. Are they going to talk bad about you next?

16. If they are too "oooh-ey goo-ey" and over-the-top when they answer your personal ad, that is a red flag.

They are the ones who write these very long, drawn-out drippy emails about how beautiful you are and the sun shines and sets on your lips, etc. etc.

Be careful! These people are not on these dating sites for love. They are scammers.

17. Always make sure that they are the real age they say they are.

Some men and women fib by a couple of years to put them in the category of the age range of who they want to date, but I recently had a men fib by 10 years. That is so wrong.

18. If someone has a picture of themselves with a crowd of others or if their picture has another man or woman in it, you have to wonder about their laziness to crop the picture. 

What nerve to post a picture of yourself with your ex!

19. If they say they are separated, that's a red flag.

Those words can be very tricky. Find out if they are physically separated from their ex or if they are still living in the same house. After all, you do not want to be in a rebound relationship.

20. How someone introduces themselves to me through a personal ad is very important.

If they say "Hey Baby. You're hot" or something similar to that or simply "Hi", you can be sure I won't answer their personal ad.

If I answer someone's personal ad, I personalize it  I let him know about something he wrote in his personal ad that I felt connected to.

21. A surefire sign that you picked a loser is when they drop you off and don't walk you to the door. 

Another surefire sign is if they don't open the car door for you. They don't know how to treat a woman. 

22. If you are interested in someone who lives in another state or another country, avoid being catfished by asking to video chat.

If they refuse and make a lot of excuses, end your long-distance online romance right away.

23. Be honest.

Don't hide your age or use fake or old pictures of yourself. You do not want to be accused of catfishing someone.

Visit Linda Kaye's psychic site for a love psychic reading.

 

This article was originally published at blog.pinkchickpsychic.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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