Love shows up in the most unexpected places!
Whether you're planning a day trip somewhere local or venturing off to exciting new locales around the globe, finding love while traveling is a fun and thrilling possibility. Of course, don't ruin your trip by obsessing about finding "the one" instead of fully enjoying the amazing place you visit, but DO keep your mind and heart open to romance.
Here are 8 tips for that will help you meet new people in new places. We wish you a wonderful adventure! (Send us a postcard!)
1. Shrug off negative opinions about your destination
For example, "There are no single people my age in Florida." Or, "All men in Europe are jerks." Nonsense, there are wonderful single people nearly everywhere.
Maybe you won't meet anyone. But, maybe you will. So, clear your mind of negative expectations. Traveling is a great way to form your own positive opinions based on actual experience. So don't let a friend's previous experience somewhere cloud your own.
2. Hand a "calling card" to interesting people you meet.
When you meet someone and give out your card, practice saying the following: "I'm embarking on a new chapter in my life. I'm single and looking for someone wonderful. In case you know someone you think might like to meet me, I hope you'll keep me in mind."
3. Ask people to introduce you to their friends.
Try telling a really great married man you know or meet, "You're such a nice guy. I'm looking for someone as nice as you are." Of course, this is better said when his wife is present. Tell her, "Your husband is so warm and smart. I'm looking for a great guy of my own. If you two know someone like that who might like me, I'd love an introduction."
4. When out and about, split off from your friends for a little while.
Don't venture off somewhere unsafe, of course, but start practicing being on your own. Go for a leisurely stroll. Or, stop for a bit in a cafe. You only need to know and say one word: "Hello." Let the next sentence flow organically. Practice saying "Hello" to everyone you meet.
5. As soon as you get to your destination, check out the local calendar.
Look for any and all opportunities to hike, bike, visit a museum, attend a concert, hang on the beach, attend a special fair, and more. Every new place you go offers a chance to meet new people and provides you with a great topic to discuss right out of the gate.
6. Set a goal to meet at least one new person per day, even if only for a few seconds.
Maybe you'd enjoy watching a golf tournament if there is one — lots of guys are there; and if there's an Apple store, that's a favorite hangout for guys of all ages.
Here's a fun example: A client was at her dentist's office when she noticed and commented on a nice photo of a gentleman on the bulletin board behind the receptionist's desk. The receptionist explained it was her Dad, and that her Mom had passed away a few years ago, unexpectedly.
The receptionist thought for a moment, then commented that she thought her Dad might like to meet this our client, and the rest is history ...
Bottom line: You're making your own history! Strike up friendly conversation where you can. You never know where it might lead.
7. Always keep an interesting book or magazine under your arm.
Whether you're standing in line, commuting, or sitting at a table, it's amazing how often people like to comment on what you're reading. (And, of course, enjoy noticing and commenting on others' choices, as well.)
8. Offer to help if you see someone looking at a map.
Know the area? Or maybe you're just great with maps? If you seem someone who appears lost, offer to help. Strike up a conversation, give them a few tips of what to see along their way. It's a wonderful way to strike up a conversation.
Using these empowering tips, you soon become your very own matchmaker! Safe travels!
Dr. Richard Wolman is a Harvard psychologist and author of Thinking With Your Soul. Richard works with his wife Peggy, a coach and matchmaker, and together they help singles of all ages find (and keep) true love.