How To Use Acupressure And Reflexology For Loving


Acupressure is an ancient healing system developed by Chinese doctors who believed that muscular tension concentrates around specific points in the body. Pressing acupuncture points acts like a concentrated massage. Tension and toxins held in the muscles are released, allowing blood and sensation to flow freely in the area. Responsiveness and vibrancy are heightened when blood and energy are properly circulating.

Reflexology is based on the principle that all our organs have reflex points on other parts of the body. A body area or organ can be stimulated by working the corresponding reflex-point zone.


Using these principles, sexual intercourse is a form of ecstatic acupressure and reflexology. Our sexual organs are our most powerful reflex points, and the entire body is stimulated when the sexual organs are stimulated. The Taoists call sexual intercourse “healing love” because of its many healing benefits.

Following are some suggestions for sexual arousal using acupressure and reflexology. Integrate these suggestions into your foreplay as you coach your partner to breathe. Using medium to firm pressure, press with your thumbs every ½ to 1 inch along the designated area. Initiate the pressure slowly, hold for about one-half to one minute, then release slowly.

Male and Female Sacrum – Pressure on this large triangular bone at the base of the spine stimulates the genital region and may activate and release kundalini energy.

Sea of Intimacy - These points are located 2, 3 and 4 finger-widths below the navel on a line between the navel and the pubic bone. Pressure here restores, secures and supplements sexual energy. This treatment is used to treat impotence/lack of arousal, premature ejaculation, inhibited sexual desire and infertility.

Sea of Tranquility – This area is on the center of the breastbone 4 finger-widths up from the base of the bone. It is an emotional balancing point that opens and calms the spirit of the heart.

Rushing Door and Mansion Cottage - These points are in the pelvic area, in the middle of the crease where the leg joins the trunk of the body. Men often hold frustrations in these points, and clearing helps sexual energy flow into the genitals. Holding these points for a woman increases her sexual response and enhances sensations in the genitals.

Bottom of heal, on the inside – Pressure in this area can awaken desire in the genitals.

Bigger Stream – This point is located midway between the inside anklebone and the Achilles tendon, in the back of the ankle. Holding this point relieves sexual tension for both genders, semen leakage for men and menstrual irregularity for women.

Female Hidden Clarity and Great Sincerity – These points are at the base of the nail of large toe and at the outer and inner corners. Pressure here calms the spirit and clears the brain and is especially arousing for women.

Gate of Origin - This point is located 4 finger-widths below the navel. Pressure here heightens a woman’s sexual awareness.

Center of the Nipple – Touching these points arouses a woman’s sexual energy. Slowly and gently roll the nipple between your thumb and index finger, gradually increasing the pressure.

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