3 Secret Reasons He Sabotages Your Relationship


3 Secret Reasons He Sabotages Your Relationship
Money and sex issues aren't the only relationship bombs. Your man has secrets he won't tell you.

Relationships can come unglued for so many reasons -- lack of satisfying sex, boredom, money conflicts, infidelity, etc.

However, in working with thousands of singles and couples from around the globe, I have discovered that men have deep needs that if not met, will lead them to intentionally or unintentionally sabotage your relationship. 

These 'secret' relationship wreckers are rarely spoken of because they are shame-inducing and often, hidden to the man himself.

Secret #1: You are more successful than he is.

Many male-dominated industries have collapsed or have been sent abroad -- construction and manufacturing are among the top leaders. Women are also opening businesses in droves and making more money than ever before. With women being able to compete with men on nearly every level, the man's identity is no longer certain as bread winner and protector. Who is he now that she is powerful, successful and has her own money?

Women are merely reclaiming the rights and abilities that have been theirs all along. But your man - the man you love and adore - he doesn't know how to be with you if you don't appear to need him. 

He may withdraw from you or make cutting remarks. When you ask for support, he may lie and say he's busy just to get back at you. You may notice his rage comes out inappropriately and unexpectedly.

To counter this, I recommend gently reminding him, "Honey, I am going to fulfill my dreams with or without you, so you might want to consider getting on board with me and spend some time figuring out what makes YOU happy."

Secret #2: You suck at receiving.

He tries to get you the perfect flowers for Valentine's Day and you criticize him for not getting you a card. He buys you lingerie and you curl up your lip and roll your eyes, mumbling that it's not in your color. He tells you look beautiful and you carry on about the zit on your nose or your cellulite. You get the idea.

He's really trying, in his own way, to show you that he loves you. The only appropriate response is a big smile and a soft, "Thank you, love."

Most women I meet are incredibly receiving-challenged. In the male-dominated world, they've learned to be very good givers: great friends, confidantes, caretakers, moms, doers. But women are BUIILT to receive, emotionally and biologically.

In receiving your man, a smile and very little speaking is key. Can you surrender to his love and let him lead you? 

In a nutshell, I recommend you NEVER do these things to your man unless someone's life is at stake:

* Give directions * Give advice * Try to fix his problems without him knowing * Criticize him verbally

Men THRIVE in an atmosphere of appreciation. You don't have to give him gifts (except on the obvious occasions) or DO for him. Your appreciation, matched with abundant physical affection can turn most relationships around. Every time you go to change, complain to or nag your man, find a way to compliment him that is authentic. Try it. It is magic.

Secret #3: He doesn't know his Life Purpose!

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Mentor Baeth Davis

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Baeth Davis is "The Palm Pilot for the Soul of Your Business."(tm) Using scientific hand analysis, she reveals to you the blueprint nature put in the palms of your hands and helps you unleash this custom-made-for-you design to create a passionate, profitable, purpose-full 6-, 7- or 8-figure business that honors your spirit and soul while serving your clients.

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