The Three Magic Ingredients for Finding True Love…


The Three Magic Ingredients for Finding True Love…
46 million people in the US are single right now.

Did you know that there are more single people of all ages in the world today than ever before? In fact, 46 million people in the US are single right now.

And there are so many different ways to meet your partner. There is online dating, speed dating, and Meetups and singles events. There are even highly skilled professional matchmakers you can pay to help you find love as opposed to something your meddling aunt did in her spare time!

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But no matter what method you use, there are three things you must have working for you to find love.

These are your actions, thoughts and beliefs.


Most of our beliefs are formed as children as we watch our parents and observe relationships around us. Many of you had poor relationship role models. So as a child you said "I never want that to happen to me".

Guess what?

You now have a belief that will make sure that never happens to you. Not only that but sometimes these beliefs can be self fulfilling prophecies.

Cindy observed her dad cheat on her mom and leave her for another woman. She watched her mom's pain and decided she never wanted to experience that herself. Not only that but she listened to her mom rant and rave about how all men are cheaters. Guess what happened? Cindy ended up dating a married a man! She never wanted to experience being left for another women so she became the other woman. And she met a man who was in fact a cheater.


What you pay attention to, you get. And while you may not be paying much attention to your thoughts, guess what-your thought are creating your life. That's right- what you
think about affects what shows up in your life.

Mary met a lot of men but was constantly focusing on what was wrong. She would flirt with a man in the grocery store and instead of feeling good she would think, he was ok but I don’t think I am attracted to him. And her thought always was “I never meet anyone I am attracted to.”

No wonder Mary literally never met men she was attracted.


If you have read to this point, I know you want to find true love. In fact when I interviewed a large group of single women almost everyone said that on a scale of 1 – 10 they were a ten in their commitment to finding true love.

Yet almost none of them were any taking action to meet their true love! Finding love is like running marathon. If you want to run a marathon you need to actually get out there
and run. The people who do it successfully join a running group, get a training schedule and stick to it. They know that some days running is going to hurt and other days the
endorphins will kick in and it will feel great. They also know that you can't run a marathon in a week. It takes time and commitment.

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Sarah was a gorgeous and attractive professional woman. She was very busy and had a very active life. But she could never seem to find time to date.

She joined an online service but she did not have a lot of time to email. And then even if she did meet a man online she was often out of town so it was difficult to coordinate
the dates. And yet she wondered why it was so difficult for her to meet men?

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