One: Treat yourself how you wish to be treated. There is no wiggle room here. If what you desire is respectful love, then you must be giving that love to yourself. Embrace all the parts of you – the good, the bad, and even the ugly. You must be willing to give yourself the same love and acceptance that you are looking for in your mate. When you embrace this then you become available for the love you most desire. This also means that you live your life the same way you would if you already had what you desired. So many people put off living fully until the right conditions are in place. Besides, living your life this way will most likely put you in places where you will meet that person who shares your likes, interests, lifestyle, etc.
Two: Let go of the past. Forgive yourself, forgive the other people who have betrayed, abandoned, and disappointed you. Discover what the lesson was for you to learn, be grateful to have that knowledge and experience and move on! When we are focused on past hurts and disappointments then we are choosing our current mates based on what we don’t want. Your last boyfriend cheated? You better make sure the next one is honest and faithful. This way of thinking will keep you in that old pattern. Learn from the past, forgive and move on. Finding your soul mate is about what your heart truly desires.
Three: Make a list of qualities that you want your partner to have. Be very specific. Focus on values, personality traits and internal qualities, not on physical traits or external qualities. If it is important that your soul mate be successful, then focus on the qualities that made him that way, not the amount of money he makes. You want to focus on who he is, not what he does or looks like. Then go through the list and ask yourself: - “Do I hold/have this quality? If not, how can you cultivate it? Then start cultivating those qualities. Be the person you are seeking to be with. This is not about him completing you. One plus one does not equal one. You are complete and whole within yourself.
Four: Be committed to your personal and spiritual growth. Whatever your spiritual path may be, commit to it fully. This is your path to wholeness. Only by becoming whole yourself will you attract another whole person. In relationship, water seeks its own level – if you want a Soul Mate, do the work to move forward on your journey and you will surely meet your partner along the way.
Five: Do not settle! It is possible for you to have everything you want in relationship. If what you desire is a true soul partnership then the Law of Polarity says that you would not have the desire if it wasn’t possible for that desire to be fulfilled. Keep your eye on the prize! When you waste time with someone who is not what you truly desire, then you are telling the universe that you don’t really want a soul mate. You are telling the universe that you don’t deserve a soul mate. And you are cheating yourself and the man you are with. Stop wasting time with good enough, and go for what is in your heart’s desire!
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