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6 Things You Can Learn From His Dating Past


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A guy's previous relationships can provide insight into your own bond with him.

A man's relationship record can tell you what to expect from him when he enters into one with you. Whether he's broken hearts or had his broken, most guys come with some baggage from their former flames. Here's our take on what a man's past might tell you about him.

Serial Monogamist: This guy loves being loved — and isn’t afraid to commit. Yet jumping straight from one serious relationship into another may signal insecurity or a fear of being alone.

He's Cheated: While his past infidelity doesn’t mean he’ll cheat on you, have a conversation about why he strayed in a previous relationship. If he hasn’t addressed his reason for cheating and worked to change, there’s a good chance it’ll happen again.

He's Been Cheated On: A man who’s been dogged in the past will likely have trust issues. He may have trouble opening up to future girlfriends for fear of getting his heart broken again.

He's a Relationship Newbie: This love loner could be super picky or fear rejection. Apt to jump ship when the tides get: rough, he may not understand that relationships are hard work.

He's a Known Player: Even if his debonair attitude seems to speak otherwise, a known player sees you as just another notch in his headboard. He’s liable to wine, dine and lay you … then leave you.

He Has a History of Dating Crazies: A man with endless stories about depressed or abusive exes either turns normal gals loony or likes loony girls because he enjoys the drama, needs to feel superior or thinks he can save them. He’ll probably either make mountains of your molehills — by constantly trying to rile you up — or drop you the second he gets bored.

For more red-flag advice, check out the authors' dating guide The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags. You can also follow them on Twitter @bigredflags.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.

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