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How To Make Your Second Marriage Go The Distance
Learn from past mistakes in order to strengthen your next marriage.
Learning how to love better is a key element in creating the marriage you desire today.

A recent article addressed the issue of multiple marriages and how one can answer the question, "Is this your first marriage?"  While the stigma is not what it used to be, the question does raise feelings of guilt and failure in some people.  It is a reminder that the first, perhaps second, or even third time marriages did not lead to happily ever after.

As a relationship coach, I help my clients learn from the past as it is a key element to making your second marriage last.  The tendency is to attract the same type of relationship experience.  Many people I work believe each person is totally different from the one before, but on deeper examination find out they have repeated the cycle.  I specialize in seeing the pattern that has developed and identifying that person's norm for love.  There is always a feeling that one tries to recreate as an attempt to work through a past challenge and get to a happier ending than had been experienced previously.

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Couples who are successful in remarriage have learned valuable lessons from their past relationship and gained insight and wisdom regarding not only themselves but also what it means to be in an emotionally healthy, functional marriage.

To make love last and not only go the distance but to grow in depth and connections, my suggestions as a relationship coach are:

Take responsibility. It is vital to see what your role has been in failed relationships or previous marriages.  As much as the ego would like to place the blame solely on the other person, deep down you know it is mutual actions which led to the downfall.

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Have solid priorities. You will nurture relationships with those you esteem.  If you were in a marriage in which you were at the bottom of your spouse's priority list, it is important that you know where the relationship should be and then clearly vocalize your convictions.  In good marriages, maintaining a strong bond with each other is priority one.  Career goals are important, but they should not supersede love.

Stop the drama. Each person has a particular role they gravitate toward in drama.  Whether it is playing the victim, the persecutor, or the rescuer, you need to not only identify your role, but also learn to stop taking the bait of drama and start communicating in a constructive manner.  In my book, What To Look For In A Man, I share the process of how to recognize relationship patterns and the way to create a new norm in love.  You have the capability of making your marriage whatever you want it to be.  Wherever your thoughts roam, your destiny will follow. 

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Nancy Pina

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Nancy Pina, Relationship Coach

Contact: 832-566-0800

Recent books: What to Look for in a Man, Attract the Lasting Love of your Life

 

Location: Houston, TX
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Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Forgiveness, Spiritual
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