The Bright Side Of Breaking Up


smiling woman wearing shades
It's not all bad.
Three ways to rock your single status in 2013!

How many times have you felt utterly lost or breathless when a relationship ended? Rarely do we look at being single as an opportunity to fall in love again … with ourselves. In fact,  time away from a relationship is crucial for your mental health and your identity. In order to love someone else, you must love and get to know yourself again.

Although it hurts, although the thought of belonging to someone and feeling needed is amazing, it may mask what you really want from life. So get reacquainted with your single self. Here's how:

More from YourTango: Behind Most Good Men Is An Even Better Ex-Girlfriend?

1. Volunteer. Not only is volunteering a great way to help others, but it's also a great way to rediscover new passions. Not to mention, it's a great way to meet new people.

2. Get in shape mentally and physically. Get yourself together. Before you're healthy enough to get caught up in another romance, get your head and body in order. By getting yourself in shape, mentally and physically, you ensure that your confidence is at its highest, making you irresistible to others, including the new partner you will surely attract.

Besides, you want clear head space. You need that. Your baggage will only bring down and hinder any chances you have at future happiness. Likewise, if you exercise regularly, you will look and feel your best, which once again, makes you irresistible in the near future.

3. Experience something new. If you can afford to splurge, travel to some place new. Sometimes, new experiences help you gain perspective and insight into old problems. If you can't travel, start a new hobby. Change your old routine. Try a new food experience. Bottom line, get out of your same old routine.

More from YourTango: Why Planned Parenthood Is Right About Mitt Romney

As the saying goes, if you do the same old thing, you're going to get the same result. Step out of the negativity surrounding your breakup. Embrace the fact that you're able to achieve more undeterred by the concerns of your old relationship and start enjoying life. New love will come around before you know it.

More breakup advice from YourTango:

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

Let's make it
FB official
Recent Expert Posts

How to Get Over Your Stinkin' Thinkin'

Recognize "Stinkin Thinkin" that leads to depression and turn it into positive action and success.


Why Breakups Hurt

Breakups hurt us even when there is no love lost.


Why Do Men Hide Their Emotions?

The emotional processing in the male and female brain is not the same....

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no time…

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>