There is nothing like mind games to put him in his place, reminding him of the vixen you still are.
In "Love Games, Part 1," I mentioned the various things a woman should consider in place of pouting to tear her man away from his video game. For instance, get dolled up and venture out.
I should mention that sometimes a man really needs his space. Allowing him to have his man-time will only make him miss you afterwards...in most cases. But if your man always needs alone time, or you’re suffering from ‘I need you to more spend time with me or else,’ then consider the following.
There are times when nothing you do can limit the pull of his game or his tv show. In that case, if he continues to play his video games, or decides to go hang out with his friends then play a love game. Don’t admit that you’re upset. If you are, hide it.
Smile, smile, smile. Knowing that you look your best, let him know that you’re going out...sans girlfriends. Then kiss him gently, deeply, passionately and leave him wanting more. Take your exit stage right because now he is absolutely curious that you failed to take the bait and b#@&* about him not joining you tonight. But remember this, he noticed you.
Although he said nothing he will be at home or with his friends, thinking about where you’re going. He will wonder who you will be with tonight, so let him. Let his mind wonder because too often, we women are the ones doing this.
Am I suggesting a covert affair here? No. I suggest keeping it simple. Tonight is all about you and what you enjoy. You’ve managed to flip the script, so test the waters. Venture outside of your neighborhood. Sometimes, simply trying something new…alone, may make you appreciate the rarity of your free time; it may help you gain further insight into your relationship and whether you’re content with it.
In addition, this free time may help you determine what you should change about your relationship, or what you should change about yourself. A little time alone to think can be a great thing. Not to mention, the brief absence may make him want you even more.
So even though your man will be playing games with his friends tonight, believe me, you will be on his mind too. Because he is trying to play it cool, keep your cell phone nearby for the texts sure to come with his hesitation because he will certainly be checking on you more frequently tonight. When he does, this isn’t the time to make him go crazy with anger and jealousy.
You already have the upper-hand, so answer his texts promptly, but keep it brief. The point of this exercise is to remind of him the strong-willed, sex goddess he first landed eyes on. Bring back the woman who aroused him long before you were ever caring for him and washing his dirty clothes.
By venturing to a mall, an art gallery, museum, a yogurt shop, theater, and so on, you’re playing it safe. Stay away from the bar scene, night club, or any other place where dim lighting and seductive music might lead to something scandalous. Again, tonight is not about that.
If you encounter a tall, dark and sexy stranger who begins to flirt with you, appease him with a sexy grin, but keep it at a minimum. Nothing like a new guys wanton looks to turn up the heat and recall the raw, but demure sexuality you embody. But he is not your prey tonight. Remember the good man you have who has pushed you to this outing by frequently ignoring you for his XBOX 360, by playing at his friends’ house, by always venturing out with the guys and leaving you behind.
Tonight is harmless and should involve no hanky-panky, no hair pulling, doggy-style in the sleazy alley, nor romp in the hay with the tall, dark and sexy stranger. If you roll in the sack with anyone, let tonight’s outing serve as a mini, but safe adventure that helps you rekindle the passion of your already game-torn relationship.
Tonight is about revenge. Sweet, unuttered, passive-aggressive revenge. Keep in mind though that since you are alone, your outing shouldn’t last too long. In other words, consider yourself on a curfew. If you’d like to push the envelope even further, when he texts you to find out if you’re having a good time, what you’re doing and what time you expect to return home, keep it brief. Don’t overindulge him with details. Keep him guessing to an extent.
Remember, distance, an aloof attitude that answers the questions without revealing that you’re ‘missing him terribly,’ ‘only embarked on this journey to get back at him in the first place,’ ‘really wish you were here,’ should never enter the conversation.
Try to be home within a few hours after you first left. This may reassure him beyond words that you just needed some ‘me time,’ and wasn’t out there looking for trouble. To get under his skin further, get home around the same time he does, or shortly thereafter.
You should appear happy, even if you’re not a loner and didn’t enjoy your own company tonight. Remember, you two are playing love games, so let him think you had a good experience without him.
If you happened to chat with an interesting person, guy or gal during your outing, what happened during your outing (think the Vegas Slogan here) stays between you and the stranger(s). If your partner asks about your night out, you should ensure him of where you were. Ensure him that you had a good time, but that nothing really interesting took place.
You know you enjoyed flirting with a stranger, but you don’t need to rub that into his face. That could only potentially harm the efforts you just made by sacrificing an evening moping alone on the couch because your man usually plays Skyrim all night and ruins the whole night’s experience, which may turn from innocent curiosity to enraged jealousy.
Afterwards, show him that you appreciate his trust and a much needed night out alone. Turn up the heat, even if you’re secretly replaying the scenes with the sexy stranger you saw earlier, and remind your man of the vixen still lurking inside of you.
Because sometimes, games can really be exciting; especially when both of you are playing the same one.
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