How To Get The Universe To Give You What You Want


Accomplish your goals and wishes and create the life you want.

Have you ever wondered why you don't have what you want in your life—happiness, love, confidence? If you're answering, "that's easy: not enough time or money," or almost any other answer, I'd ask you to reconsider. I met a woman at the West Seattle Chamber of Commerce a while ago and asked "what do you do?" She said, "whatever I want to." I loved it.

I wonder how our lives would change if we could internalize that we DO do whatever we want. Okay, so you don't want to maintain the car, drive to work at 7am, or go shopping, but you do want the results—a smooth running car, a paycheck, and a stocked kitchen.

So you are doing what you want. It's so easy to focus on the frustrations and the "if onlys." What could you create if every time you caught yourself thinking about what was missing or wrong, you turned it around? If you notice an "I never have time to read" thought, how about adding, "but I guess it's because I choose to watch TV (read to my kids/ stay longer at work/ hang out with friends)." In other words, you are at choice.

You may argue with me if you are suffering from cancer, constant headaches or backaches. I'm not foolish enough to say you will necessarily like all that you have in your lives. But I'm saying to deal with it in the most life-affirming way you can. If you are in pain every day, don't expect so much from yourself. If your job requires a 70 hour commitment for a month, it will be easier to bear if you concentrate on the satisfaction of when the project is done, or the overtime pay, comp time, or the likelihood of advancement.

If, instead, your attention is stuck at how overextended you are, and you don't think you have an option short of losing your job, you would probably feel better if you remembered how much closer you were each day to getting back on a better schedule. If 70 hours is your regular schedule, I hope you are getting enough benefits (and are happy with them) to justify the price you are paying.

Have you connected what you want with what you are willing to pay? If you want more clients, have you gone to networking groups like Business Network International or your local Chamber of Commerce? Have you called Quick Information at the library for organizations that attract your potential clients? Have you joined Toastmasters or Rotary Club? How about Google or checking the Yellow Pages under Clubs or Associations? Have you checked out Puget Sound or your own local Business Journal?

Unless you are physically or mentally challenged, or emotionally disabled, you can expect to have whatever you are willing to commit to. Commitment means doing whatever it takes for however long it takes. You may need to build in a support system and change some habits and attitudes, but you are meant to have what you deeply desire.

If your dream is to travel around the world, and you have no money, ask the question I heard from Mary Morrissey (Building Your Field of Dreams): "If you didn't believe it were impossible, what would you do?" In other words, if you thought it were possible, what actions would you take toward making it come true? As long as we believe we can't have a vacation, a lover, a great career, a healthy body, no action will take place. Sorry, there's no magic. It's the old tried and true "take the first step and keep walking."

What is your dream? What makes you expand when you think of it? What brings forth that extra energy, curiosity and creativity? If you don't think you can create your dream alone, who will support you in it? I had wanted to write a book for years. I knew how much support I needed—daily contact. My friend Shay became my Belief Partner (Morrissey's term) and sent me an email every day, commenting on what she liked about the last day's essay.

My book became Pleasures and Ponderings: From Nun to Nudist to Now. I wrote about why we don't honor our priorities, a mother's pride, my delight with my relationships, the joy of "yes," the comfort of completion, inner peace, expectations, and 70 other topics. I knew based on how easily I am diverted by dozens of fascinating people, places, and websites, that without someone's discipline (and it might not be mine), my book would stay in my head. In 2007, with more support, I published my book of poetry and vignettes, Diving Right In: Reflecting on Life's Adventures. A dream come true.

So what is your first step? Is it a phone call to the library or a friend or a coach? (Remember, I offer a complimentary 30-min. telephone coaching call, and I love to stimulate discovery and focus on fulfillment). Is it saying "no" to some requests? Saying "yes" to your own agenda? Doing some research? Joining Mountaineers, a dance class, or an investment club?

If you brainstorm on paper, just writing whatever thoughts or actions come up about your dream, and do that every day or every time you think of it, you may be amazed at how many options and possibilities have opened up. I've repeated for years what I heard on a tape: "The Universe rearranges itself to accommodate your picture of reality." You think it can't be done? Everything around you will confirm that. You believe it's possible? Doors will open, people will pass on relevant facts, your eyes will light on a pertinent book.

A case in point. I rent out 6 rooms in my home built in 1910. The last person I wanted to move in had financial concerns and wasn't going to rent here. I so believed she belonged here that it didn't surprise me when a current roomer chose to move from his less expensive room to the other one that had been for rent. Now, I called the potential roomer and she chose the cheaper room. I really believed she would move in, and she did. I also believe I am lucky and I often win drawings and raffles. I am pleased, but not surprised.

It's the same principle Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie and Tony Robbins (among others) teach: what you believe and act on is drawn into your life. You can check out my favorite Law of Attraction email and register here.

It doesn't mean anything if you say you want to date more women but don't take the actions. No one, including yourself, can take you seriously if you say you want an investment portfolio but you never open an account. You'll never get to Europe on wishes. You'll still weigh 250 pounds next month if you don't change your eating and exercise habits. Often, the missing piece is getting the support you need, as I did with Shay for writing my book. You don't need to feel bad about what you have or don't have at this moment. "Carpe diem"—seize the day. Do it now.

Check out these books for support: Jennifer White's Work Less, Make More; Thomas Leonard's The Portable Coach; John-Roger & Peter McWilliams' Do It; any books by Barbara Sher, from Wishcraft on. I've typed 2-3 pages of notes from each of 30+ personal growth books. I'll be happy to forward them to you. And you can go to the self-help section of your library or bookstore and find a book and a program that speaks to you. Anything is possible if you believe it, act on it, and are willing to commit to whatever it takes to be it, do it, have it. I will offer daily email coaching and cheerleading for two weeks to the first five readers who email or call me at 206-938-8385 and ask for that support. What do you want? Take the first step. Contact me and let's set up a plan to fulfill your dream.


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