6 Behaviors Women With Superior Social Skills Often Display That Make Men Take Notice
Coleman Glover | Unsplash Strong social skills come down to connection, and that's something people can feel. When a woman communicates with confidence and makes other people feel interesting, it creates an energy that's hard to ignore.
And yes, men notice. Authentic social intelligence is rare and refreshing. It signals emotional maturity, self-awareness, and the kind of warmth that makes people want to stick around. So what exactly sets these women apart? Here are seven behaviors that tend to show up again and again.
Here are 6 behaviors women with superior social skills often display that make men take notice:
1. They create an emotional connection
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To make a man take notice, you have to take the time to cultivate a strong emotional connection. Creating an emotional connection with a man doesn’t come from:
- Caregiving
- Buying him things
- Being like one of the guys (his pal) & spending time doing “buddy activities” together
- Sleeping with him
- Being his psychologist
When a man feels like you’re the kind of soft and empathetic woman who can listen and care about his feelings without psycho-analyzing or infantilizing him, he feels seen.
2. They drop the walls
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Though it’s important to be emotionally available to his needs and feelings, what’s even more important is that you are available on your own and can share your vulnerable feelings with him. When you can be what I call the "love guide" in the relationship, and show a man, through your example, what it means to open up to another person, you can inspire him to want to share his vulnerable side with you.
3. They give off a grounded energy
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There’s a big difference between having energy that implies, “I feel scared and angry, and I can handle these feelings, but I want to share them,” apart from the energy that screams, “I feel scared and angry, and I need you to fix these feelings for me right now!” To feel grounded, take the time to tend to your home and your body. These two things are physical representations of your “space,” your center, your core — and when you feel good about these two things, you can help yourself feel safe, welcoming, open, calm, loving, and patient no matter what he is doing.
4. They make their space inviting
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Here's what making your space inviting means:
- Clean your house — dust everything!
- Think about new lacy curtains or painting your walls a soft yet bright peach or mint green.
- Make sure you love your bedding and feel cozy and clean in it at night.
- Put fresh, colorful flowers in each room.
- Light scented candles and always take out the trash at night
5. They project calm confidence
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The best way to win a man’s heart and make him want you is to own your appeal. Not every woman can think of herself as attractive, or even alluring, because of self-loathing thoughts that prevent these false beliefs. However, every woman can work on being more confident in themselves. Women with strong social skills understand that confidence is a strong predictor of being an attractive person, but overconfidence that tips into arrogance undercuts those benefits. There's a sweet spot where you carry yourself with self-assurance rather than seeking constant validation or trying too hard to impress.
6. They're curious about the world
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To own your appeal, you have to step into your body. You have to indulge your senses and allow yourself to feel fluid (instead of uptight and full of tension) and open to the stimuli present all around you in this beautiful, wild world. When you eat, really taste your food. When you listen to music, really let it touch your soul. When you touch something, be curious about its texture and temperature (this includes a man’s skin — wink.)
Kristina Marchant is a writer and author with a BA in psychology from Barnard College at Columbia University. She is also a relationship coach who advises women on men and healthy relationship skills.
