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How To Win A Man's Heart
The art of making his heart soft and his sex hard for you...

If you want to win a man’s heart and make him yours forever, you have to make him want to both protect you and ravish you senseless at the same time.  That’s when he will be attentive, romantic and affectionate.  That’s when he will feel inspired to commit and be emotionally available.

Creating An Emotional Connection With A Man

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To make a man want to protect you, take care of you and tend to your needs within the relationship, you have to take the time to cultivate a strong emotional connection with him.

Creating an emotional connection with a man doesn’t come from:

  • Caregiving
  • Buying him things
  • Being like one of the guys (his pal) & spending time doing “buddy activities” together
  • Sleeping with him
  • Being his psychologist

An emotional connection blossoms between a man and a woman when both partners feel emotionally safe with one another to open up about their feelings.  When a man feels like you’re the kind of soft, sensitive, understanding and empathetic woman who can listen, validate his feelings, care about his feelings and tend to his needs without psycho-analyzing them and infantilizing him, he feels seen. 

Opening Up To Him

Though it’s important to be emotionally available to his needs and feelings, what’s even more important is that you are available to your own and that you can share your vulnerable feelings with him.  When you can be what I call, the 'love guide' in the relationship, and show a man, through your example, what it means to open up to another person, you can inspire him to want to share his own vulnerable side with you.

How To Share—Having A Strong Center

When you open up to him and share your feelings, make sure to stay grounded.  When you can have a strong center and not flood him with insecurities and neediness, you can speak from your heart without overwhelming him with “pulling” energy. 

There’s a big difference between having energy that implies, “I feel scared and angry and I can handle these feelings but I want to share them” then energy that screams, “I feel scared and angry and I need you fix these feelings for me right now!”

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To feel grounded, take the time to tend to your home and your body.  These two things are physical representations of your “space”, your center, your core—and when you feel good about these two things, you can help yourself feel safe, welcoming, open, calm, loving and patient no matter what he is doing…

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Ms. Kristina Marchant

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Is the man you love emotionally distant?  Maybe he runs hot then cold, or maybe he has slowly been distancing himself over time?  If so, you are have something in common with the women who read and follow my blog, ConnectWithHisHeart.com  Come take a look and sign up there for my free mini-course: "Why Men Fall In & Out Of Love...  And What You Can Do"

 

 

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