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How To Win A Man's Heart

Love, Sex

The art of making his heart soft and his sex hard for you...

If you want to win a man’s heart and make him yours forever, you have to make him want to both protect you and ravish you senseless at the same time.  That’s when he will be attentive, romantic and affectionate.  That’s when he will feel inspired to commit and be emotionally available.

Creating An Emotional Connection With A Man

To make a man want to protect you, take care of you and tend to your needs within the relationship, you have to take the time to cultivate a strong emotional connection with him.

Creating an emotional connection with a man doesn’t come from:

  • Caregiving
  • Buying him things
  • Being like one of the guys (his pal) & spending time doing “buddy activities” together
  • Sleeping with him
  • Being his psychologist

An emotional connection blossoms between a man and a woman when both partners feel emotionally safe with one another to open up about their feelings.  When a man feels like you’re the kind of soft, sensitive, understanding and empathetic woman who can listen, validate his feelings, care about his feelings and tend to his needs without psycho-analyzing them and infantilizing him, he feels seen. 

Opening Up To Him

Though it’s important to be emotionally available to his needs and feelings, what’s even more important is that you are available to your own and that you can share your vulnerable feelings with him.  When you can be what I call, the 'love guide' in the relationship, and show a man, through your example, what it means to open up to another person, you can inspire him to want to share his own vulnerable side with you.

How To Share—Having A Strong Center

When you open up to him and share your feelings, make sure to stay grounded.  When you can have a strong center and not flood him with insecurities and neediness, you can speak from your heart without overwhelming him with “pulling” energy. 

There’s a big difference between having energy that implies, “I feel scared and angry and I can handle these feelings but I want to share them” then energy that screams, “I feel scared and angry and I need you fix these feelings for me right now!”

To feel grounded, take the time to tend to your home and your body.  These two things are physical representations of your “space”, your center, your core—and when you feel good about these two things, you can help yourself feel safe, welcoming, open, calm, loving and patient no matter what he is doing…

Warm Up Your Home:

  • Clean your house-- dust everything!
  • Think about new lacy curtains or painting your walls a soft yet bright peach or mint green.
  • Make sure you love you bedding and feel cozy and clean in it at night.
  • Put fresh colorful flowers in each room.
  • Light scented candles and always take out the trash at night

Pamper & Love Your Body

  • Use lotions and perfume oils.
  • Get massages
  • Do gentle and self-loving exercise like yoga or t’ai chi.
  • Wear soft fabrics in soft shades that aren’t too severe (lavender over black).
  • Wear your hair down and spend money on good hair products
  • Etc.

Win A Man’s Heart By Making Him Want To Ravish You Senseless

Men are funny—when they are truly in love, they want to protect a woman like a knight in shining armor.  However, they also want to possess her body in the bedroom.  It’s like he wants to do to you want he wants to protect you from with other horny, savage men. 

The best way to win a man’s heart and make him want you is to own your sensuality.  Not every woman can think of herself as sexy, or even sexual, because nasty self-loathing thoughts can prevent these self-beliefs.  However, every woman can work on being sensual and can trust that she is capable of being so.

Indulge Your Senses In The Present Moment

To be sensual, you have to step into your body.  You have to indulge your senses and allow yourself to feel fluid (instead of uptight and full of tension) and open to the stimuli present all around you in this beautiful, crazy world. 

So… When you eat, really taste your food.  When you listen to music, really let it touch your soul…  When you touch something, be curious about its texture and temperature (this includes a man’s skin.)

When you can be curious about the world around you, like a child who's full of wonderment, a man can take that journey with you, and that’s when a love affair begins.  That’s when you can win a man’s heart.  Romance is about getting lost in one another in a loving, passionate way, so why not get lost in life in the same way-- inspire him to chase you and make you want him the way he can see that you want to know and love the world?

If you want to win a man’s heart and make him want to be your knight in shining armor, check out my eBook, Red Rose Woman:  The Enchantress Inside You.  The enchantresses of King Arthur’s time were masters at seducing men.  They were so effective at building emotional connections with men and being sensual when around them, that they single-handedly changed the face of love.  ‘Courtly love’, which we call chivalry, was an invention of the time, triggered by a knight’s desire to honor a woman with respect and civilized devotion.   My eBook will show you how to turn any man into your devoted modern knight!

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