How to Share Your Vulnerability With Men


How to Share Your Vulnerability With Men
The "forcefield technique" may help you open up and expose your softer, more authentic self to him.

The only way to truly get into a man’s heart is to let him into yours. A man can lust after a hot body, a sassy attitude and a li’l red lipstick, but the best way to attract him and keep his interest is to give him a reason to deeply care for you. Learning how to share your vulnerability with men will help you build a powerful love connection with that special man.

What Do I Mean By Your Vulnerability?

I don’t just mean be a sappy, willowy woman who tears up at the sight of baby deers (I do do this, but that’s beside the point). By vulnerability, I mean exposing all your feelings-- the good, bad and the ugly. That means sadness and anger… and anxiety, fear, nervousness, etc.

By sharing your vulnerability I mean sharing your feelings about any and everything. Now, I don’t mean your opinions, which are fine to share, but your opinions won’t make him feel more in love with you. They may make him respect you, admire you, think you are great, cool, fun, smart, witty, etc. But your feelings will make him feel HIS feelings for you. Shared opinions makes for great friends but shared feelings create love.

I want you to share your feelings about the little things as much as about the big things: a certain restaurant, the weather, your favorite movie. Instead of sharing your opinions about these things from a cerebral place; “That movie was excellently directed”, share your feelings from your heart; “The way that movie was directed made me feel so sympathetic for the main character. My heart bleed for her.”  Allow your emotions to match your words; get into your feelings and to share them without walls or pretense. Don’t push out fake feelings, just trust in him enough to share authentic emotion.

You will immediately become a more passionate person in his eyes. You will steam with life and allure. He will think you are more sensual, sexier, more sultry… A woman who is in touch with her emotions (not drama, just passion about life) stirs up a man’s own emotions, much like a yawn makes another person yawn. Men with strong masculine energy are thinkers and doers, and feminine energy helps to balance this and keep men in the moment. When a woman has strong feminine energy, she has the power to be a man’s vacation from thought. After all, love isn’t about reason/logic/ration… it’s best served with a garnish of passion-zest!

How Do I Expose My Vulnerability?

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Ms. Kristina Marchant


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