Why Do Some People Fear Commitment?


Why Do Some People Fear Commitment?
Are you dating a commitaphobe? Here are four reasons why they may find it difficult to settle down

Though many individuals cannot wait to find a life partner and best friend, to share their life with as they grow old together, there are others who have a deep fear of commitment. Neither of these types of people are wrong or right. Of course, the trouble comes when one of each type finds themselves in a relationship – that is when the hurt can begin.

Wanting to stay married forever, raise a family and share a bond for life isn’t looked at oddly or frowned upon in our society. However, many quickly question what is wrong with a person who fears commitment. They are unconventional, not playing by the rules, loners, drifters.

More from YourTango: Would You Ever Date A Criminal?

But the truth is that those who are anxious about commitment are human beings, just like everyone else. In fact, one could consider them more insightful because they aren’t rushing into marriage and risking becoming a part of the half that end in divorce, which hurts both partners in addition to children, if they start a family.

Does fearing committing to someone mean that the person will never be ready? Not necessarily. Sometimes it just takes time and more assurance that his or her mate is the one destined to share a lifetime with. There are, however, some people who do desire to not commit, and will remain that way for life.

To navigate these choppy waters, let’s look at some of the reasons people fear commitment:

The Person Was A Child Of A Bitter Divorce

Divorce impacts children in various ways. Some people who witnessed a terrible divorce as a child, or who witnessed many friends and family divorce, may believe that marriage doesn’t work. This person may need more time in a relationship to feel certain the marriage will last.

More from YourTango: 10 Warning Signs That Your Husband Is Cheating

Keep reading...

More Juicy Content From YourTango:

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

Let's make it
FB official
Recent Expert Posts

How to Get Over Your Stinkin' Thinkin'

Recognize "Stinkin Thinkin" that leads to depression and turn it into positive action and success.


Why Breakups Hurt

Breakups hurt us even when there is no love lost.


Why Do Men Hide Their Emotions?

The emotional processing in the male and female brain is not the same....

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no time…

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>