5 Easy Steps To Reignite Your Sex Drive

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Love, Sex

You CAN turn yourself back on sexually after a period of sexual shutdown with these 5 simple steps!

Do you feel completely turned off by sex? Does the idea of having sex just not register in your mind at all? Does the mere word "sex" feel so foreign to who you are right now?

People sexually shutdown for many reasons, and most of the time, without even realizing what has happened. It may occur over a period of time of you being "too busy to even think about sex", as a gradual process after a break between lovers, or might happen suddenly, triggered by a traumatic life event like a death in the family. 

As the gap between sexual activity (solo and/or partnered) increases, you become more and more distant and cut off from your bodily sensations and your sex drive, until before you know it, there is a complete sexual disconnect. 

Irrespective of what has caused you to sexually shutdown, the good news is though, that it is possible to reclaim your sexual essence. I recently created this five step process model which will help you to reconnect with your sexual side and bring sexy back for yourself in no time at all!

1. Pay Attention To The Sensations In Your Body.

Make a deliberate effort to notice how your body experiences certain sensations throughout the day during everyday activities like walking, sitting, exercising, and showering. Think about how you feel in certain outfits, how it feels to be in close proximity to attractive strangers, and even how the winds feels against your skin.

2. Make A Conscious Effort To Entertain Sexual Thoughts.

Set aside a time each day to think about sexual scenarios and entertain sexual thoughts, fantasies and desires. For those of you who love writing, you could create a short erotic story with you (or a version of you) as the main character.

3. Dress Sexy In Your Own Company & Revel In How You Look & Feel.

Dress in sexy clothing or lingerie, when no-one is to see you but you, and have fun moving around or dancing, touching your skin with a sensual awareness, and appreciating yourself and the way the clothing feels upon your body.

4. Use Technology To Express Yourself Erotically In Private.

Take some sexy pictures or videos of yourself on your phone (just for you!) and experiment with different sensual poses and expressions, while taking notice of the sensations in your body as a result of this creative and erotic expression.

5. Connect With Your Sexual Core Through Mirror Work.

Spend time connecting with yourself in the mirror by looking into the reflection and acknowledging your image as a glorious sexual being. Practice really seeing yourself in that mirror. This is NOT about examining yourself, this is about truly recognizing your soul in the looking glass with complete appreciation and acceptance. 

These steps may seem daunting, awkward, and even downright strange, but who cares? Shouldn't you be willing to try almost anything at this stage, to bring your sexy back? As unconventional and unnatural as the above actions may appear, once you've tried them out you'll actually realize how freeing and fun they are to practice. 

Enjoy!

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