I'd like to share my 5 favorite quotes from books I've read this year to inspire you toward self-love.
1."If you want a recipe for a relationship failure, just wait for the other person to change first." ~ Harriet Lerner, Marriage Rules.
You are the only one you can change. You cannot control other people's thoughts, feelings, and actions. For many of us, our defenses tell us to blame the situation or other people for our unhappiness. That's much easier than looking in the mirror and cleaning up "our side of the street." Whether you are in a relationship or not, changing yourself first is the only correct path. Put no expectations on others to initiate change because if the relationship fails, you still own your own actions and feelings. Make these your first priority. Be the person you want to be and observe how your relationships improve. It's a win-win.
2."Life is full of opportunities to feel exactly the way you want to feel." ~ Danielle Laporte, The Fire Starter Sessions.
Danielle Laporte's words speak directly to the many years I spent allowing external circumstances control the way I feel, watching my mood vacillate depending on other people's thoughts and actions.
She writes that the best way to feel good is to generate those feelings internally, regardless of what's happening around us.
If you want to feel confident and vibrant, dress, speak, and act that way! Don't wait for outside affirmation. You may hear words of praise, or you may not. But you can feel good all the time simply by choosing to.
Learn to think before you speak. And I'm referring to your inner dialogue. How you think about yourself is reflected in your interactions, and it's all about the story going on in your own head. Choose to feel confident and in control, and your relationships with others will improve. You have the power. Engage it!
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