Every love story has it's challenges.
First, he rented out the same place they were married. Romantic move, but that is nothing compared with what he said in the toast he gave.
Surrounded by all their friends and in the same place they exchanged their vows, Steve Jobs stood up and said to his wife:
"We didn’t know much about each other 20 years ago. We were guided by our intuition; you swept me off my feet. It was snowing when we got married at the Ahwahnee. Years passed, kids came, good times, hard times, but never bad times. Our love and respect has endured and grown…"
"We’ve been through so much together and here we are right back where we started 20 years ago — older and wiser — with wrinkles on our faces and hearts. We now know many of life’s joys, sufferings, secrets and wonders and we’re still here together. My feet have never returned to the ground.”
What lessons can we take from this love story to make our own love lives better? These three things:
1. Start thinking in terms of "we."
Notice the intimacy of “we” this letter. "Good times, hard times…We’ve been through so much together…with wrinkles on our faces and our hearts. We now know many of life’s joys, sufferings secrets and wonders and we’re still together."
2. Show each other tenderness in your shared life.
"You swept me off my feet. Good times, hard times, but never bad times. My feet have never returned to the ground."
3. Understand that a full life includes both ups and downs.
"We’ve been through so much together and here we are where we started 20 years ago … we now know many of life’s joys, sufferings, secrets and wonders and we’re still together."
In life, you, too, will face good times and hard times. You will also go through so much and come to know many of life’s joys, sufferings, secrets and wonders.
Will you do it with someone you love?
Maybe your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend isn’t easy to be with either. But can you, like Jobs did, find the good in your marriage or shared life, build on that and continue to face the rest of your days together?
If you can, you have a rich reward for yourself and your partner — a lifetime of memories together … the good, the hard, but never any bad.