I have been told that I am very good at giving relationship advice and many people are shocked to know how many close personal relationships I have. I have a large group of friends that I can very easily call “Best Friends”, when most have one person they can call a Best Friend if even that.
So people ask me how do you do it? How can you keep track of every one? My answer is simple: I connect first and foremost and I come from a place of Fairness, Love, Balance, Respect and ultimately from a “treat other people the way you want to be treated”. When I come from those spaces, I not only connect on a deeper level with the person, but I also create authenticity, honesty and clarity as well.
There are many friends who I don’t see often at all (like once a year or every 2 years) because they live on the other side of the world, but every time I pick up that phone to talk to them, we pick up from the last time we saw each other, it is just like now time or space has ever been in between us. The secret to having deep and meaningful relationships is to treat each other with respect and just as you would want to be treated, which is always from a space of Love.
This will apply also to your romantic relationships and your business relationships as well, as when you are respectful, thoughtful, clear, authentic and just all around transparent, you will build long lasting and fruitful relationships with people.
Through the years I have learned to discern those who will treat me the way I expect to be treated and those who won’t. This discernment must be exercised and practiced, as many not working relationships will appear, before you find the working one if you don’t. I had to weave through and examine my past non working relationships, whether they were romantic, friendships, business related or just momentary, in order for me to figure out what I was doing wrong and shift to what I could do right.
So here are 3 tips that can be used across the board, for having the Best Relationships:
1. PRiNCIPLES - Be very clear on your principles from which you operate and use them every time you make a decision. If you have to list them, do so. Make a list and then prioritize the top 3 most important principles. Mine are: Love, Compassion and Authenticity.
2. RELATIONSHIPS - Once you are clear on your top 3 principles, make a list of the types of relationships you want to have. Divide your relationships into 4 categories: Romantic, Family, Friends and Business. List the qualities of the people you want to be in relationship with in each category and then watch for those people as they come into your space. If you are one of those people who does not get along with a lot of people I suggest you look inside and see what unresolved issues these relationships might be triggering and write a list of those things along with the qualities of those relationship that you don’t want and then burn it to release it and get them out of your system.
3. SHIFT - Notice the people you are now meeting and check them with your principles and relationship list. You will notice a nice shift from what has been previously in your life. Continue to be aware of your principles and relationship types so that more of those you want come into your life. If you are not seeing a change, there is more inner work you must do before a shift can be made, so go back to 1 and start all over.
If you love people and love to be around people, why not make the best of it!