3 Ways To Be Your Own Valentine This Valentine's Day

Love, Self

"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection."~ Buddha

Valentine's Day, you either love it or hate it. For all of you single women out, there this day may feel like rubbing salt into a raw wound. You may be wondering how you are going to survive this day. There is no one special someone in your life that is going to shower you with roses, take you on a romantic getaway and whisper sweet nothings in your ear. But wait a minute, is that really true?

There is a special someone in your life and that is YOU.

Instead of focusing on the fact that you do not have anyone special in your life, reframe your thinking and celebrate the one person in your life that is tried and true — YOU. Too many women put their life on hold waiting to enjoy life until "Mr. Right" comes along.

Put Your Heart and Soul into Planning Your Valentine's Celebration

Quiet your mind and think of the type of environment that will nurture your soul on this special day. Remember, this day is all about YOU.  When that vision comes to mind, begin to think of the steps you need to take to create that environment. For example, maybe what came to you is that you feel frazzled and are in need of something that will sooth your soul. Armed with this information, you then decide to book a full day at the local spa. By taking this action step, you have created a positive experience surrounding Valentine's Day. Your subconscious mind will now register it as a feel good experience and begin to transmit serotonin, a feel good hormone throughout your body. Who doesn't need a shot of that?

Loving Self-Talk 

Instead of plummeting into a funk because you are not hearing that special phrase, "I Love You," opt instead to engage in loving self-talk. Take out a piece of paper and begin to answer these questions:

  • What are some loving things I can say to myself today?
  • What do I love most about myself?
  • What makes me a loving person?
  • What makes me so lovable?

Your subconscious mind will search for the answers. You'll be surprised at how easily the answers will begin to flow. Really take these responses to heart and by doing so you will strengthen your love of self.

Compose A Love Letter to Yourself

With the information you have gleaned from your self -inquiry, compose a love letter to yourself. This is such an important step to take. We can not expect someone else to love us if we do not love ourselves.

Give yourself a gift of love and be your own Valentine. A whole new lovable you can begin to surface.


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