You had a great guy in your life and you let him go. Now you regret it. It may have been a high school guy buddy or an ex-boyfriend. It may have been a guy that chased you for years and finally gave up since you were not interested. Now you realize that you should have given him a chance because he is a GOOD MAN and not like the playas and bad boys you’ve always liked. Now you are ready to settle down and realize that he would have made the best husband and father to your future kids than any other guy you’ve ever known. So go get him!
First off, don’t think you can start off right where you left off. You may have hurt him. He may not be open to rekindling your friendship. Take a slow approach. Be humble about how things ended and be willing to apologize if it ended badly. But just start with a simple email or Facebook post first. Start off with something like, “Hey, how are you? I just thought I’d say hello!” If he doesn’t respond, don’t sweat it. He is not ready or not interested.
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If he does respond back, invite him to your party. For this you must invite other people to hang out so it will be a ‘party.’ Just a couple of people at a happy hour will do. Anything as long as it isn’t just you and him. At this party, simply catch up with him casually. You do not want it to seem like you are trying to get him back into your life, but simply being that same friend you were. Don’t get too deep or try to have a prolonged conversation privately with him right then, just keep in light and friendly. Let him take it from there. If he mentions seeing you again or comes up with an invitation, accept. At the very most say something like, “You were a great friend and I have missed you.” That’s all!
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Now, if he sets up something for the two of you to do, that is when you can get deeper and admit that you’d like him back in your life in some capacity. I wouldn’t say anything about dating unless he presses for it. Let him lead that direction. Just be his friend for now and see where it develops. Unless he asks! If he wants to date you, he will bring it up.
So be content to just hang out with him for now and let it progress naturally back into something more.