Where can you find single lesbians? Single gays? Trans folk? Where are the bisexuals? If I've heard it once, I've heard it a million times — "There's no one to date where I am!" Not true.
If you're connected (meaning you've got Internet access), are you searching for and checking out all the dating sites? If you're not connected to the Internet, go to the library and use their machines. Got a smartphone and a data plan? Consider yourself hooked up.
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Let's just get dating sites out of the way first. There's one for everyone. Many focus on our LGBT needs, desires and fetishes including transgender folk, bears, butches, femmes, tops, bottoms and everyone else in-between. But the whole dating site scene is getting old, right? It's not always fun; it's not always productive and though it's interesting to meet that bottom boy in Alaska online, that's a hook-up that won't happen if you live in Miami.
Being LGBT means being extra special, but it also means being extra hard to find ... but only because you are stuck in a box about where to find lesbian, gay, bi or trans people. I work with lesbians from New York City to small towns in Texas to Dubai, Australia, Canada and the woods of Maine, and almost every woman I work with believes it's hard to find LGBT people.
So, let's open up a few more closet doors, move beyond your local Starbucks, explore some options to create a treasure map for where LGBT people hang out and where you can go looking for connections.
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1. Local lecture series. First off, we are smart, aren't we? Secondly, we love to learn and hang out with smart people. Start checking out your local university and its lecture series. Harvard did a lecture series for 2012 that involved a collaboration between leading researchers and world class chefs. I'm sorry I missed it. Keep Reading ...
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