to the YourTango newsletter!

Continue to Site »»

ProConnect

Does Being In Love Make You Fat?

By . Posted on .

Couple Sharing Dinner
Studies find women likely to gain weight upon entering the comfort zone of marriage and couplehood.

New research shows that within a few years of getting married, individuals are twice as likely to become obese than their unmarried counterparts. The study was published in the July issue of Obesity, where the authors tried to determine how romantic relationships affected weight gain. They studied 6,949 people for several years and found that married people are more likely to become obese than those who are just dating, and that young people who cohabitate with their partners also tend to gain weight. The study also showed that unmarried women who have lived with their boyfriends for five years or less had a 63% increased chance of developing obesity. On the other hand, men had no increased risk of gaining weight during cohabitation.

Why does this happen? The researchers questioned 1,293 couples for a separate part of the study. It appears that mealtime became a more important routine than it was when the people were living alone. Secondly, workouts don’t get done the way they did in the past prior to living with the significant other. Individuals begin to feel loved and accepted for who they are, and for some this may mean letting themselves go. They are no longer trying to find a perfect mate; they live with them.

More from YourTango: No connection

Scientists have known for a long while that having a close relationship with an obese person, whether a friend or a spouse, makes you more likely to become obese. Amy Gorin Ph.D., an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Connecticut, published a study in 2009 showing that if one spouse participates in a weight-loss program, the unenrolled spouse tends to lose 5 lbs.

Marriage does have its benefits, including the tendency to live longer and to give up bad habits. You don’t have to gain weight just because you decide to marry or live with the love of your life. Perhaps focusing on working together for a healthy lifestyle is the key.

Ten ways to begin a healthy life style with the one you love:

1. Clean out your pantry, tossing anything you snack on that is in a bag or wrapper.

2. Stock up on fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean protein.

3. Make your home a “NO SODA ZONE.” Nothing will make an immediate change in your diet program as quickly as quitting soda.

4. Stock up on water, and whenever you are hungry drink a cup of water first.

5. Make a pact to try one new exercise a week. For example, Monday can be walking leisurely for 2 miles. Tuesday can be going up and down the stairs for 10 minutes. Wednesday can be walking as fast as you can for 1 mile. Thursday can be chair marching for every commercial in an hour program on television. Friday can be walking leisurely for 3 miles. Saturday can be gardening or sweeping your sidewalks for one 30 minutes. Sunday could be reserved for a day of rest.

6. Instead of going out to eat, go out for appetizers and limit yourself to one drink.

7. Make a pact as a team to not eat past 7 p.m.

8. Tell each other how great the other looks.

More from YourTango: WANTED: Previously Married and Attractive Males

9. Tell each other how grateful you are to be on a “Healthy Lifestyle Team” with them.

10. Whenever you want to snack, write down: why do I want this, what is it going to do for me, and is there a better food for my body?

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Mary Jo Rapini

Counselor/Therapist

For more information go to: www.maryjorapini.com
Talk to me on my fan page: http://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini
Tweet me: @MaryJoRapini
Read my Love and Relationships Blog on Chron.com
Ask me questions on Fox26 in Houston, TX and watch every Thursday Morning at 9am for “Mind, Body, Soul with Mary Jo” and Friday Morning's at 8am for “Healthy Happy Hour with Mary Jo”

Location: Houston, TX
Credentials: LPC
Other Articles/News by Mary Jo Rapini:

No connection

By

http://www.myfoxhouston.com/story/22238221/2013/05/13/when-your-partner-cant-emotionally-connect   There is a disorder that is making more and more sense into why couples break up. The personality trait is called “Alexithymia,” and it renders the person it affects unable to communicate their feelings or understand their feelings as ... Read more

WANTED: Previously Married and Attractive Males

By

When you hear the word 'Puma', you may think of an athletic shoe or a cougar’s little sister. But in the U.K., however, it is taking on a new meaning. A 'Puma' is a previously married and attractive man that women who want to get married seek to find. These women are choosing experience over youth, and they believe that divorced men make ... Read more

3 ways to talk so he hears you

By

                                      The underlying problem in most relationships is lack of communication. This usually involves couples feeling like their partners don’t listen to them. Women seem to complain about this more than men. Women usually talk ... Read more

See More

Recent Expert Posts
Courtship

7 Essential Things That Men Find Attractive About A Woman

Find out what your assets are and how to use them to your advantage.

empty nest: relationship advice for parents and their adult children

Empty Nest To Full House: When Your Kids Move Back Home

Your kids graduated school and they're moving back home ... now what?

Beach Body

The Link Between Sex and Health

There are numerous proven links between sex and health.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

Resources
How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no time…

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>
HOT STUFF!
FROM OUR PARTNERS