Are you crushing on your friend? Here's how to play it cool.
Most of us have had a crush on a friend at one point or another. But how can you get out of it? Staying hooked into the fantasy or hope that one day he'll "wake up" to your sexy awesome-ness is just that: a fantasy. Instead, take action now to preserve your great friendship AND open up to being found by that man who wants to be your partner.
Dating with Dignity has five foolproof ways to get yourself out of the friend zone, ASAP.
1. Shift your focus.
Accept your friendship, but treat it as just that: friendship. Enjoy your guy as a friend. As you begin to transition away from seeing him as your crush, it's time to set more boundaries. Stick to activities that are friendly only; stop going out to dinner with just the two of you, cooking together, hitting the grocery store to pick up a few things, and movie nights in the theatre (or even worse, at home).
Instead, focus on doing platonic activities such as watching a game together or hanging out in groups. When something goes awry -- or even when you get the best news ever -- try to avoid going to him as your "first call," reaching out instead to people with whom it's appropriate to make deeper connections.
As you start valuing your friendship in a non-romantic way, you'll have more time to make yourself available to date, strengthen your other friendships, and as a bonus may find that you either don't actually like him "that way" once you begin to create some distance. Over time, your crush may start to see you in a new way as he also detaches from the friend zone, which could lead to his actually asking you out on a date or enable you both to create a truly equal and platonic friendship. Keep reading...
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