Divorced? 5 Steps To A Fresh Start In 2013

By Marina Pearson. Posted on Dec 6th 2012.

Turn a terrible crisis into an amazing opportunity in five, simple steps.

I cannot believe we are nearing the end of 2012. This year has flown by, hasn't it?

With the new year on its way, now is the best time to start thinking about what next year holds and what you want from it. You see, without writing down what you want, life will usually happen to you, which means you are not in control of the outcome. And I know it may seem difficult to focus on the positive when you're in the midst of a painful divorce or breakup, but this is exactly the right time to start.

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Whatever happened happened. However, how you deal with what happened is up to you. That's right. Having been through it myself, the only thing I know for certain is that you have the power to turn your crisis into an opportunity.

What I often see with my clients is an incredible amount of fear towards their future. However, the future hasn't happened yet, and you are fully in control of painting a beautiful picture for yourself. With that in mind, here are some of the most useful tips that have worked really well for my clients:

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1. Commit. Make a commitment to yourself to let go of the past. Until you do, you will not make room for anyone new to come in. Plus, hanging onto the anger and regret will only make you feel worse.It may even affect the relationship you have with your children. By making the commitment to let go, you decide to live in the present and stop struggling. Continue reading ...

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