Here are 3 stories of online dating experiences I've had over the past few years.
The first bachelor was Mr. “K”. At the end of the first date, he walked me to my door, gave me a hug and said, “Call me”. Five minutes after we said goodbye, he called to say he wanted to make sure I got in safely. He also said he had wanted to kiss me. Aaah…..
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When we went on our second date a week later, I found that I was starting to like him. What’s not to like - he laughed at my jokes and said I was gorgeous. At the end of the evening, he gave me two light kisses on the lips and said, “I know you’re very busy tomorrow, but I’m going to call you anyway.” I never heard from him again, until...I put my profile back up three weeks later and he sent an email.
Here is a part of his email: How have you been? Haven’t heard from you in a while. Guess you forgot about me. He also left a phone message 20 minutes after he wrote the email. I ignored both the email and the phone call. I was interested in Mr. “K” but I was not going to put myself in the position of getting close to someone who was able to disappear for no apparent reason. Turns out Mr. “K” was not so “Special”.
WHAT HE DID WRONG:
1. Saying he would call the next day and not following through: If he had simply said, “I’ll call you” and then not called for 3 weeks, it’s possible I would have called him back. We had only gone on 2 dates and if he didn’t want to call for 3 weeks, that’s fine. However, when he didn’t keep his word, I no longer trusted him.
2. Trying to put the blame on me for being not being in contact with him. Sure, he may have been joking. He knew he messed up and was hoping I wouldn’t say anything. If he had kept it real, and admitted making a mistake, the possibility existed that I would have given him another chance.
3. Contacting me just because I put my profile back up. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that he decided to get in touch with me within 24 hours of my profile being back up. If he was really interested in reconnecting with me, he had 3 weeks in which to do it in, but he didn’t.
The next bachelor was Mr. A. We had a great first conversation on the phone – he loves to talk and I love to listen. One yellow flag I noticed was that he bragged about his sexual prowess. We met for coffee and conversation flowed easily.
A few days later, he called on Saturday morning to see if I was available that afternoon to go to a high school basketball game that he was possibly thinking of going to. I generally don't accept last minute dates, so I said I wasn't available.
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About a week later, he called at 4:45pm to invite me to a Lakers game that started at 6pm. I would have loved to have gone, but I didn't want him to think it was okay to always ask me out at the last minute. I thanked him for asking but said I wasn't available on such short notice.
A few days after that he sent me a “Kiss” from the dating website we’d met on. I didn’t respond and I never heard from him again.
WHAT HE DID WRONG: