I wanted to share this excellent article with you written by non other than the mystic twins ( I kid you not, that is their handle. After living the last 20 or so years of my love life, I have come to the very same conclusions. It wasn't an easy process reaching this place inside myself of non attachment but I do honestly believe that we are all on different love lines. That some learn from one and some learn from many. Each soul your journey with shapes and shines the diamond that is you a little bit more. It is hard at time when things come to an end but before you know the cycle is turning over a new leaf and we are presented with the next reflection of ourselves. Is the person who falls in love and stays married for 60 some odd years any better off than the person who has loved and cared for 60 some odd people over the course of a lifetime? - no one can answer that. What is important is that we set our intent on loving whoever we are with. When your intent is to learn to love, you are willing to face your fears and feel your painful feelings in order to understand how you may be creating them and discover what you need to do differently. Who we do this with is not important - what is important is the remembrance of our own divinity. So please enjoy these principles as I must say I agree them
Most people are conditioned from a young age
by fairytales, movies, and TV to have certain
expectations about how their love life should be.
Unfortunately, many of these are traps that set
one up for disappointment or worse.
These traps repeatedly trip up even the most
intelligent and otherwise successful people. You
can choose to opt-out of them and make the most
of your love life, whether you are single or involved.
Even by perceiving your love life from a different
perspective, you will drastically reduce stress and
1) “The love of my life.” Accept that you don't
know who the love of your life is until the last day of
You no longer need to worry about whether someone
is the (only) love of your life. Even if someone isn’t
the main love of your life, it doesn’t need to diminish
the importance of the bond since each one is for
2) “My soul mate.” The myth that everyone has only
one soul mate, if you happen to believe in the concept
of soul mates, causes plenty of problems. Metaphysical
research has shown that everyone has many soul
mates. Of course, some are much more compatible
than others, and it’s not always obvious at first.
You no longer need to worry about if you have found
or will find “the” soul mate.
Instead, accept that we all have many soul mates, allow
each connection to be what it’s meant to be, and enjoy
them for what they are.
3) "I should meet my soul mate/spouse/partner
by age 25 (or 30 or 40 or whatever age)." It would
be nice if you could just apply for and receive your soul
mate at a certain age, much like you do a driver's
license. The reality is that some people are meant to
meet a more compatible person or people early in life,
and some must have a little more patience. Our findings
dictate that people meet who they’re supposed to meet,
when they are supposed to meet them, and everyone’s
love timing is different.
You no longer need to worry about meeting a compatible
partner by a certain age.
Instead, accept that everyone meets their most compatible
soul mate at different times in their lives and that you will
meet who you are meant to meet, when you are meant to
meet them, for the purposes for which you are meant to
meet them. Of course, making the most of yourself and
learning to be happy on your own can only help.
4) “You are my one and only, forever.” Strict,
long-term monogamy can work temporarily, but it may
be unnatural for some, and considering the high rates
of cheating, the majority of people are unable to actually
live it permanently.
You no longer need to worry if someone will be faithful
to you forever or if someone will “steal” a partner from
Instead, accept that if a long-term relationship is meant
to be, it will be. Also, realize that strict, long-term
monogamy may not always be appropriate or reasonable
for everyone, yet that doesn’t give anyone a license to lie or
5) “You are my everything.” This is the ideal, and
certainly a nice thought, but how many can live up to
such high standards? Frankly, it’s often unrealistic and
unfair to expect one person to fulfill all your needs for
the rest of your life.
You no longer need to worry about being all things to
Instead, accept that this is impossible and that you
and a partner are both free to develop enriching and
rewarding friendships that will positively influence
you and your relationship.
6) “Together forever.” It’s okay to hope that a
relationship lasts “forever.” Unfortunately, most
don’t. Our findings indicate that all relationships
have destined beginning and ending times. If you
think about it, it really doesn't make much sense to
expect a relationship to last from age 25 to 85 since
everyone is always evolving, changing, improving,
and sometimes regressing at different rates.
Are you the same person you were 20 years ago?
Probably not. Do you expect your best friend from
6th grade to be your best friend when you're 80?
It can happen, but it's rare. Do you expect to have
your first job for the rest of your life? No. Granted,
many couples can "grow old" together and are
destined to do so, but for others, it's just not meant
to be long term. Resisting this will only cause more
heartache and stress.
You no longer need to worry about finding someone
who will be compatible for a lifetime.
Instead, accept that many relationships are not meant
to last an entire lifetime, especially when started under
the age of 27 or so. Surely, you’ve experienced a
friendship that has run its course. Love relationships
are similar in that way. This doesn’t mean you should
discard a relationship at the first sign of conflict, but to
be honest and aware of yourself and the situation