So What If He Doesn’t Love You Back? 5 Steps To Happiness

How To Be Happy: Moving From A Toxic Situation Into Happiness
Love, Heartbreak

Walk away from hurt and pain.

Loving a man who doesn't love you back can be a painful process of highs and lows. It can also be your prerogative, your time for growth and change. Loving a man that does not love you back is just an old, deep-rooted pattern. The point of change starts when you decide to change your own circumstances. When you decide to invite more love and fun into your life, you will succeed. This might seem scary at the time, but getting up and walking away is sometimes the most liberating thing you can do!

1. Learn To Value Yourself And Trust Your Decisions
Recently a client of mine was working in a restaurant. She hated it there. She felt undervalued and unappreciated; the terms and conditions were awful, she told me as she sobbed tearfully. I asked her one question: if you hate it there such much and you know that you are being treated badly, why you are still there? She looked at me angrily and gave me all of her excuses about why it was important for her to stay. In a soft spoken but firm tone, I quickly pointed out to her that nobody will value her until she values herself. My client walked out of our coaching session that day and pondered the question. Four weeks later she explained to me that she had indeed walked out of the job, not knowing what she was going to do next and how she was going to pay the bills. Two weeks later she found a better job with better pay and more suitable circumstances. She couldn't believe her luck.

2. Surround Yourself With The Right People (And Circumstances) 
If you want a fantastic relationship with a great guy, walk away from pain and into joy. Walk away from negative situations. Walk away from the man who doesn't love you back. This creates space for the new. Surround yourself with people who have loving and rewarding relationships. Notice their behavior; notice how they treat each other. Feel the energy and love that is exchanged between them. Ask your newfound friends about their life experiences and the choices they have made that have created a fulfilling life, and decide to do what they do. Join different groups or organizations that help you grow as person inside, so that you can gain inner strength and confidence.

3. Keep Personal Integrity
If you say "I would love to fly to Paris this year," fly to Paris this year — don't put it off. This gives you confidence to trust and believe in your own decision making. The strength to stay true to who you really are is a powerful tool to master. It is difficult to walk away from a non-serving situation and it is even more difficult to stay away. That is why it is so important to develop the ability to keep personal integrity.

4. Make Decisions From A Place Of Joy, Peace and Happiness.
This will prevent you in your relationships from choosing the wrong guy over and over again. Why? Because you have decided to walk away from bad love, you have decided to better your life, and now you are surrounding yourself with the circumstances and people who will best help you to make your dream a reality. You are making new choices, choices that are in harmony with what makes you joyful, happy and at peace. When you decide to make a decision from these positive thoughts you will never again fall into the trap of putting up with situations that make you feel ugly inside. Inner joy, outer joy, inner peace, outer peace, inner happiness, outer happiness, the outside world reflects our inner most thoughts and feelings. Choose from the inside out.

5. Love Yourself Along The Way
And here is the best part: you must love yourself through every part of this journey, every time you take a wrong turn — and you will take wrong turns. You will want to fall back into old ways and old situations. Keep going and once you make a decision and stick with it, no matter what. Do not go back to what is comfortable or what is familiar, no matter how bad the change may seem in the beginning. I promise you that if you take the leap your life will improve in ways you can't even imagine. Go for it, walk away from the man who does not love you back and never ever give up.

Now that you have walked away from the man who does not love you, how can you tell if the next guy is right for you? Check out this article.

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